Why Aspies rarely donate to forums they "love"?

This is a pattern I cannot understand. Aspies spend so much time on an internet website, some even spend all their social interactions on a single forum. Yet not only do they never donate when the admin requests help because of maintenance cost, they even fail to respect other users WHO love the site so much that they are paying a considerable amount for it to exist.

I mean they can't even donate a single $1 as a token gesture when the website's survival is at stake. Despite how they are so addicted to it and claim they love the community, they seem to be so socially inept to even make a tiny sacrifice and even show ingratitude towards other members (esp NTs) who do sincerely care for the site.

Sure that member is (unintentionally) annoying in his posts but since he donated a $100 this year can't you show appreciation?

In fact I'd extend this beyond web forums, I notice so many Aspies have a tendency to show ingratitude to their real life benefactors be they their boss, their parents who are providing housing, or their church who gives free food to beggars.

Why is this logic? I'm an NT but I love Psychforums so much I intend to donate large sum next year. I'm really disappointed the obsessive aspies rarely do this and even go as far as disrespect forum members that contributed so much cash to the site over a petty disagreement.

SauronineKnight wrote: Yet not only do they never donate when the admin requests help because of maintenance cost, they even fail to respect other users WHO love the site so much that they are paying a considerable amount for it to exist.

I mean they can't even donate a single $1 as a token gesture when the website's survival is at stake.

Uh, are we being tracked by diagnosis/diagnoses as correlated with our monetary spending?

If so, then I need to re-read the Terms and Conditions of this site. That is something I cannot subscribe to.

didto wrote:

SauronineKnight wrote: Yet not only do they never donate when the admin requests help because of maintenance cost, they even fail to respect other users WHO love the site so much that they are paying a considerable amount for it to exist.

I mean they can't even donate a single $1 as a token gesture when the website's survival is at stake.

Uh, are we being tracked by diagnosis/diagnoses as correlated with our monetary spending?

If so, then I need to re-read the Terms and Conditions of this site. That is something I cannot subscribe to.

Absolutely, positively not.
SauronineKnight is (I presume) referring to a trend he's noticed on another (or various other) sites that he's been a member of.
No tracking of that nature (or any other nature for that matter), going on here. I personally wouldn't agree with that happening myself xx

what trend? i know of no such trend, and i certainly don't fit it either! i've given innumerable hours of my time to this forum and i ask for nothing in return. i'm more than even as far as contributing goes. money isn't the only form of contribution. indeed, i'd argue strongly that it's one of the worst.

Sure that member is (unintentionally) annoying in his posts but since he donated a $100 this year can't you show appreciation?

Do I assume that you've irritated an aspie or two recently?

The thing is, is that you could donate a million pounds to a website.. or to me personally even, but it wouldn't stop me from being irritated by you if you were being annoying.
I try to consider other peoples feelings, and I (generally) manage not to upset people.. However; one difficulty that people with aspergers often have is with cognitive empathy. Therefore, many of us can't manage to work out the impact of something on another person, until they've actually done it.
When they disagree with you, they're simply stating facts - they're not being horrible.


The money you donated is a nice gesture I agree, but why would that mean that an aspie should be respectful to you?
It's personality that counts - and if an aspie disagrees with something you say (because it goes against their morals/values).. of course they'll lose respect for you. How could they not?

You are not the donation.. the money is one small nice gesture - but it is only one thing.. it's not the whole of you.. and if that's the only nice thing that someone can see that you've said or done, they're not going to respect you.

My spending behaviour is very simple: Spend only on necesities. If I spend on something I don't need, which is easy to reach, I'll start spending way too much on things of that type. If I'd actually BUY a steam game for MONEY outside the sale, I'd quickly be buying games all over steam, which wouldn't be good for my finances. It's also hard to choose a forum: this forum has a good cause, but reddit is applicable wider and I spend more time on Spacebattles.com, what should I choose?
Apart from that I tend to speak (or type) out my mind, so if I dislike something you will know it and if you did something wrong I will tell you and when I can give suggestions for a fix. This is independent on monetary spending, although if you donate a lot of money to a forum I may tell you that you should think about your spending habits, your finance is more important than the forums, can you really afford that?