What to do when a friend refuses to accept?

What to do when a friend refuses to accept that they have asperger's?

I think it would be better to accept it because it could be helped and understood who she is.
When we do not accept who we are, we are not well with ourselves.

What advice can you give her to accept?

Thanks.

asperger's syndrome has, by definition, a fairly broad presentation. there are, in fact, numerous definitions. as such, there is no absolute agreed understanding of this diagnosis. indeed, DSM-5 has removed it as a diagnosis, choosing instead to recognise only degrees of autism, rather than identifying the qualities presented as worthy of a unique diagnosis. accordingly, i don't think it's for me, or indeed anyone else, to insist that they meet such a diagnosis. this is for them and them alone.

perhaps your friend has good reason for rejecting this diagnostic label. perhaps they feel it doesn't correctly describe them. perhaps they feel it is stigmatising. perhaps they just don't like to be labelled. who knows.

a label, in itself doesn't mean very much unless it facilitates some form of treatment or awareness, whether self or other. my experience is that others seldom derive any positive awareness from such labels. generally it's negative. as for self, whilst a label can help to raise awareness, it's not always entirely necessary. such awareness can be achieved without having to accept a label.