Life has taken a sharp turn for me.

Um... i can never think of a way to start my topics..

Calum - 15 Years old at present.

I have been bullied at school for at least five years now, and now things are actually happening. I was bullied for all 4 years of my middle school, the only thing the school tried to do to help was put me in "bullying Counselling" [ did i spell that right? ] and they also said i was just a "weird child." Now, a year later, just at the start of my second year at my upper school, I was finally diagnosed with AS, which helped with everything a lot, this school had seen that was not normal, and had given me and my family the idea that i had AS. So on now, I was still bullied anyway, despite certain measures of help. In the past year i have gotten to such a state that i have gotten a reputation for spitting at people, shouting loudly in aggression, and swearing etc, and also a reputation for throwing chairs at a boy after he hit me in the back f the head. This is from the other student's perspeective however. The teachers and staff saw it pretty much from the same view, apart form they managed to observe that these incidents only took place after so much bullying etc, believe it or not, i can be a nice boy otherwise. So they give me a silly "time out card" which is very intimidating.

Last thursday, i was in a lesson ONCE AGAIN putting up with MORE bullying from the people in a certain class, and i got so damn aggressive that i got up and spat at them, and walked out of the class. I then have to go this room where all the people on the alternate curriculum go, a silly room with a hawk for a teacher - i don't understand how she could be so horrible - if the students who are unlucky enough to learn in that room have to put up with such a horrid teacher, she obviously hates kids - I then take a toilet break where..... i might as well say this, it may help i go to the toilet and basically break down.... and... haha... got so enraged I started hitting things, including my own head. Then a teacher finds me and tries to talk to me, i have calmed down, and i go back to this silly room where i was in the first place. THEN at luch time, i go on the field where my "friends" and i usually go. We all go get lunch, on the way, some girl who i have known for a long time starts yapping off to me calling me fat etc, whatever i sually get called, so i stick my finger up at her. and keep walking. When my friends and I get lunch, two of them say, "Why are you here? None of us like you, why don't you just go away?" So, this is depressing enough, being ditched by the last people you would ever call "friends" - but what a "friend" is, if whatever a "friend" actaully is!.
BUT THEN, AS I walk out of the building, the girl i mentioned from before comes from the side and hits me as hard as she could on the side of my face! I feel sort of confused for a moment, as a crowd starts forming aorund me as i keep walking. The girl mouths off again, and i sort of just say quietly, "Why?", and she keeps saying lots of stupid stuff and hits me again harder in the same spot. I take the punch, and keep on walking. I walk back to the silly room where i was before the lunch break. I then spend the rest of the day there, a teacher comes telling me the next morning i need to see the head of year as soon as i get to school the next day, then i go home, feeling kind of depressed.

That was as far as i can remember, and as far as i know, the last proper day at school i will ever have.

The next day [ Friday ] I go to the school, sit waiting outside the office for a long time, only to end up seeing a different woman, a bigger problem is that i don't think she knew i had AS, i think she just started talking to me under the thought "he has problems". She explained i was a danger to other people, and also to myself. She then said she was going to send me home for the day and to make an appointment with my GP - the woman obviously thought i had not been diagnosed with any mental illness, she wanted me to be sent somewhere, and that she would phone home on monday. [i think, something like that ] when the school had decided when i was to return, moreover they were obviously considering expelling me. But the woman should have already known that i am already receiving counselling. That is what is worrying us at the moment.

Today We [ i mean family ] did not receive any phone calls, so my Mother took the effort to phone, and as far as i can remember, was told she would be phoned back. But we were not phoned back before we went to the GP and back, so my mother phoned again.

I have not wanted to go back to school, and i would not go to school now even if i am forced to go, and as far as i know, my parents agree, I can not be put through all of this again, as i have already been through it all too many times. If only i was diagnosed with AS earlier in life, these things that have happened to me over the course of school life may not have happened, o r may have been dealt with more appropriately.

My mother phoned the school once again, and managed to reach the woman i had spoken to. Apparently, she had spoken as though she had hardly given any thought to the matter [if i remember this from my mother correctly] and said that she would give apporval to have home tuition [if i spelt that right] and she would send the forms to my parents. If i am backed from my GP, i will be home schooled and never have to go back again, and my GP is a very nice woman and i do not even doubt that she would not agree.

So now if the GP agrees, the only time i will ever have to go to school now, is to take exams, including mock exams. I am home now every day until the forms come through, and tuition is arranged, the school is going to send work home for me eery day [apparently] until my tuittion starts. This is what i THINK is going to happen, it is most likely, if i have understood what i have been told.

So, that, is the story of the main and soggy part of my school life, and much of my life has been based arond the griefs at school really, i think.

Has ANYTHING like this or to do with something like this EVER happened to any of you? Are Aspies more liekly to be home tutored? Is any of this in common with you?

Thanks.

[My lfet wrist hurts]

I am glad you are getting away from the bullys, and I hope it will turn out better for you as you get homeschooled.
Remember that what those bullys thrive on is that you become depressed and sad, and I know it is hard not to let them get too you but I hope you manage to keep your chin up as they say.

I remember the first time a couple of bullys engaged me, what resulted was me beating them down with a stick, from that day on whenever I saw bullys at work I would stop them in the same manner as my first time. What resulted was me being labeled a bully as a consequence of bullying bullys.
I do not advise violence as a problem solver, it solves nothing, but for me personally some of my fondest memories is of catching bullys in the act and doing my best to make them piss them self in fear, but as I said it is never the solution.
I know in many ways it made me as bad as them, but I do not care.

Good luck.

Calum I had no idea this was happening. It is utterly heartbreaking and devastating that these things have happened to you. You'd expect the school to do more for you too; such as punishing the bullies. Perhaps their damn parents should raise them to be nicer people?


If you want my help on this I will offer it to you. The outcome - of you being home-taught - is not fair. If the media got hold of this there'd be more uproar at the Minister for Education's department; especially considering the ruling party there [Labour] are about to be reshuffled.


Take care my friend,
Kevin.

Hey there Calum,

My son wasn´t bullied, but since he couldn´t stay in the classroom ( he was 7 yo ) and would get so angry he would curse at the teachers, kick the chairs, etc, I was ¨invited¨ to take him off school. I home schooled him for 2 years and a half. He wasn´t happy about it, he wanted to be doing the same things the other kids were doing. I was frustrated after the same thing happened at 8 diff schools ( this includes public, private, religious, non religious ) I finally contacted a NPO that led me the way.

There are some schools that are more ¨integrative¨ than others ( and it is not the majority. We both live in different countries, but I am sure that there must be something similar there. Talk to your parents about it if possible. Children have the right to receive education and there must be laws that protect you. If the people at school are not listening, try getting your parents to talk to their supervisors, etc. Some NPO give talks to teachers and educators about AS, and other disorders, maybe that would help.

Anyway, until you are not guaranteed equality at school, it might be best to stuydy at home, and do a couple of extra activities that you enjoy/are good at .
nik

[quote="Calum"]told.

So, that, is the story of the main and soggy part of my school life, and much of my life has been based arond the griefs at school really, i think.

Has ANYTHING like this or to do with something like this EVER happened to any of you? Are Aspies more liekly to be home tutored? Is any of this in common with you?

Thanks.

[My lfet wrist hurts][/quote]


Hey, dude

Thats well s**t.

I'm not surprised the teachers don't help, in my experience most teaches don't care at all and some are downright sadistic.

I left school before doing my gcse's cos i hated it so much.
I cannot say I was bullied, but i found it unbearable in other ways.

Kids are really bad, and when they gang up on you like that i'm not surprised you get SO frustrated and angry

I'm sorry you don't know what a 'friend' is, everyone should have a friend.
I have 2 true friends and consider myself lucky to have that many.

The only slightly re-assuring thing I can say is that being a grown up is easier than being a kid, and even though my life's never easy its a lot better now.

Hang in there, i'll be your buddy if you like

Luce (as)

hmm, thanks everyone.

My heart goes out to you Calum...if it's any consolation the "Glory Days" of youth as teenagers are actually the most difficult time in life to cope with. Young people haven't fully learned respect, or in alot of cases step on respect cause dern it they are an adult now. But things will get better, the tough thing is just bearing it for the next 3-4 years.

Hang in there you'll make it through just fine.

I wouldn't worry about whatever happens Calum, really none of it matters. School / Homeschool, you just get through life anyway you can.

Some people really aren't worth it, and they are their own worst enemy.

Things can change a helluva lot during the ages 15- 18

P.S My life experience has shown me that things can go really bad for NTs and then for some reason good for Aspies. It really doesn't make that much sense but i think it has something to do with sheep culture leading us to unhealthy places. (mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically)

I think enlightened NTs and Aspies make a really good mix so don't lose faith in people too much.

What do you mean by enlightened choccybiccy? It's just interesting you mentioned that because I regard my brother as my best friend in the world. I'm an Aspie and he's an NT but he does yoga and believes in reincarnation. He's quite 'enlightened' in the sense of the word that I know.

hehe, good question chucky

I won't go right into here, but put it this way i think there is something divine in truth and logic.