Feeling alone and like u don't belong

Do you always feel like you belong and like people want to be in your presences.

Recently I've felt like my friend has changed, she's starting being kinda mean. Maybe its just because I'm different. But being all honest no one talks to me at school. Sometimes I kinda feel invisible and alone in my own world. Wishing I had a friend who would text me to see if I'm okay, or even just want to text me everyday or even hang out.

My friend says its because everyones not used to dealing with someone with Aspergers and that they don't always know how to be around me. But isn't it a thing in life in someone cares, they would try even if they may mess up, the friendship is too important to them to worry about what they do. Well I thought my friend was like that trying to understand me but recently that thought has changed.

I just want to feel like someone cares or like I belong in this world, I want to be normal, I know that will never happen but I try so much at trying to fit in or make friends, but nothing good ever comes out of it. People, even my dad says I just need to try talking to people that how I'll make friends or fit in but I say to myself I'll try talking to someone but then it never happens, I get too scared and the nerves just take over.
Being a teenager(17) isn't the easy having Aspergers on top of that doesn't make things even easier.

Have any of you ever felt this way? Is there anyways to not feel so alone? Its the first time I've posted in any Aspergers forum and I thought it would be nice to get peoples opinions from other people like me.

Jester1 wrote:Do you always feel like you belong and like people want to be in your presences.

No, I don't always feel that way because people don't always want to be in my presence. Usually I stay away when I sense that, but if it's happening more than usual with a person I care for, I try to find out what's going on and see if there's anything I can do to help.

But isn't it a thing in life in someone cares, they would try even if they may mess up, the friendship is too important to them to worry about what they do. Well I thought my friend was like that trying to understand me but recently that thought has changed.

Communication is key in a friendship, just like any other relationship. Tell her how you feel about her as a friend and tell her you want to know what's going on between you two. That is the route you must take to solve the issue.

Have any of you ever felt this way?

I've felt that way.

Is there anyways to not feel so alone?

You can't feel "alone", but you can feel "lonely."

In order to not feel lonely, you must be able to communicate with people.

Any further questions?

All of what you're describing is very likely to get better with age. Its almost always at its worst in the teen years. Hang in there.

It is not easy because you need to find someone who you trust to share your feelings and thoughts and since you are out of the norm, people in the norm will usually tell you to change certain behaviors because to them is obvious what you are doing wrong. But you don't choose you're core structure, you have to learn how to get the best of what you got. So you have to find people which you can relate to, and that is hard now, but they are out there. To feel like you belong and fit in will improve with time, because you will meet more diverse people and because people you know now will mature with time and will be more open to difference. You will also change and get better at relationships. Also when I was your age sometimes I got really down because I was socially awkward didn't realize I had family which loved me and cared for me. I made some obvious mistakes like discarding my personal hygiene once I fixed that I improved a lot.

making other people the focus of your life is a big mistake, especially for an aspie. find things that interest you and focus your energy on those. other people with similar interests will then take an interest in you. oddly enough, few people want to be interested in someone else just because they're interested in them. indeed, many find such interest disturbing - it just doesn't work. however, having a common interest is the way most people get to know each other. it seems to diffuse any personal issues. anyway, that's my advice. i spent too many years being miserable because i wasn't likeable. now i just don't care anymore. in fact, i don't even think that i want to be liked. i find the whole thing kind of false and insincere. but maybe that's just because i've had too many people in my life that did nothing but use me in my quest to actually be liked by someone.