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Does any of the following sound like Aspergers?

Postby jeffery1 » Sat Jan 09, 2016 5:38 pm

Firstly I'm not sure 100% what my girlfriends problem is, but I've done a bit of research and I'm wondering if it's Asperger's.. I would be very grateful four your thoughts please..

I am dating a girl in a long distance relationship,

For the first say 4 months of us actually dating (we were communicating before for about 3 months before) we would Skype about once a week, and chat online. She would be quite affectionate calling me pet names etc even though from the outset she did say that she finds it hard to express her feelings. But I was fairly happy with the way things were going. Then I visited her for the third time and we had a few moments together where we had what I would call for want of a better word, tiffs. Nothing too major. After I returned home, she remained affectionate for a while but then didn't want to Skype anymore. I eventually found out that she was mad at me for the tiffs we had. The interesting thing about this as well is that while she was not skyping me and had gone cold on me, she was working on coloring in this intricate heart for me, which she gave to me on my last visit (approx two weeks ago).

On the last visit she also broke down and told me that relationships start well with her but then well obviously by what I've seen, go flat. She said she's quite happy to be on her own. She says she doesn't miss people when then go away, she says she doesn't know what love is and can't feel it. Yet she doesn't want to break up with me.

She is an intelligent girl, she is very beautiful and cares very much about her appearance. She is quite blunt and rude at times, which she told me herself. She admits she is difficult. She told me that when she was a child she had her own alphabet and I think I recall her telling me she had an imaginary friend. She has a great memory too. She seems from my point of view to read into things I say and do too much sometimes. She suffers from bad dreams. She also doesn't always answer normal questions sometimes, such as would be very normal in a conversation. It's like she doesn't see the point in the question been asked. For example her friend sent her a gift which she sent me a photo of, and I asked her the type of gift it was. She replied with a what? And why? I explained I just like that type of gift and I was just interested, to which she put "strange". (To me it was just natural conversation)

She told me she doesn't really have any close friends. She is also very sensitive and moody. I've also noticed that she seems to make strange comparisons to things I've done or said, like she doesn't really understand why I did or said something. I try to explain but she doesn't seem to understand. Things are at a point now where she has said she doesn't like small talk and she only wants to talk if it is about something interesting. She said she doesn't mind talking on Skype if its about something interesting or if I need help with anything. Normal things like "how was your day?" Etc don't seem to bode well anymore. Previously when we've skyped before I had noticed that at the beginning of a Skype session she would seem very uncomfortable at first and not seem to answer properly straight away, but then she would settle into it a be ok.
She also seems to not believe that I really do care about her so much and I feel she doesn't quite trust me either. She has also said she thinks I'm only with her because of her looks. Does any of this sound like anything on the autistic spectrum? I care about her so much and enjoy been with her and I want to understand her, but she doesn't open up much.

Many thanks for reading my post.
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