Some advice

I just wanted to explain to all of you why you should never feel bad about having AS. Reading through a lot of the posts here, I've noticed a huge number of just insanely depressing posts. I'm not saying to just "lighten up"-which is bullsh*t advice- but what is more bullsh*t is feeling low, pathetic, and depressed just because you are "different".

Saying to yourself "I have AS and bad social skills and can't do anything about it" is the worst thing you can do. It's all about having faith that you can do something about it, like making better eye contact, for example. Don't ever put yourself down, or think too much about your problems. We with AS might be different, but we do not deserve to feel lower than anyone else. Try the opposite and start feeling like you are superior, because, in a lot of ways, we are.

There is a good article I found online about AS and autism and how it relates to evolution. Take a look at it.

http://www.scienceagogo.com/news/autism_evolution.shtml

Anyway, my real point here is that you should never let some bs label like AS get in your way. Maybe we can't express ourselves with ease in ways other people can, but don't let anyone think we are anything less than normal humans. We ARE normal humans, and maybe even the next humans. We are highly intelligent people, and we should do everything we can to let people know that.

I'd be happy to hear what you guys think.

peace,
namaste

i think if you are depressed your wrong. i think if you feel superior you are wrong. i think if you feel neither superior nor depressed and these things dont cross your mind.. you are wrong. if you have a huge ego you are wrong. if you dont have an ego you are wrong. everything is wrong. and if you think most things are wrong then you are wrong. That must mean you hate people or that you are very angry. and being angry is wrong. but not being angry is also wrong. Did i say that that might be wrong.

Yes, something I've learned from cognitive behaviour therapy is that your thoughts are the cause of your emotions. When 100 persons say you are stupid, ugly and say sarcastic comments about you, it is YOUR fault that you even care about these comments. It is your thoughts that give you these depressing feelings. Fighting a depression is very difficult, but you can come out victorious if you have the right tools. Easier said than done, of course. But I agree with Joe Dirt too. How does one know what is right?? Take tiny steps forward, and don't dig yourself down further, I guess is the right answer. Patience is a virtue?

yeah, i agree with you.......sort of. I found the article interesting. Alot of the posts here are quite possibly from individuals who have only recently been given an answer to their quirkiness and understanding that can bring about healing.

Some individuals who post may have experienced quite extreme situations and many failures along the way due to being an aspie. Resulting in major depression, and low self esteem. Something that cannot be fixed so easily. And alot of these depressing posts are individuals trying to better understand why they are depressed and reaching out to better understand the unique situation they are in.

I also agree with joe dirt how does one know what is right or wrong. And if one finds himself or herself in a low valley unless he or she is aware of the low place they are in that is all they will be able to see. But once one becomes aware it is up to the individual to climb back out and i must say it takes time alot of time.
So yes patience is a virtue, I beleive good things come to those who wait.

I do not mean to be condescending, I just wanted to offer you a different perspective on why many of the posts you have read were depressing, we are all at a different level and all trying to better understand ourselves and the world we interact with.