Will AS rule?

Is AS going to always rule over everyones life that has it, can anything change.

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Well, I voted No because the way I view it overall is as follows: It takes longer for Aspies to adapt to the things that Neurotypicals take for granted. Thus, we will eventually get 'There', but in just a longer time period.

...but it really just depends on the person that you are. I fear ending up alone and being afflicted by this perpetually but I also still feel there is a chance to live a normal life.

Kevin.

Hi, The brain has been proven to be able to change a hell of a lot. anything is possable.

thats a negative.

That's like asking if ALS rules Stephen Hawking's life. He's Stephen freakin' Hawking. Yes, he's paralyzed to an extreme degree. Yes, it impacts his daily life.

It does not, however, define his life.


Compared to ALS, Asperger's is the mental equivalant of a hangnail. Granted, it has the decided draw-back of not being immediately obvious (which in turn leads people to have neurotypical expectations of you), but that can be both a good and a bad thing depending on what you're looking for out of any given social interaction.

Stephen doesn't have the luxury of being able to pass for normal at all. We can.


So to answer in short:

Will you ever be "cured" of Asperger's? Not likely. (I don't think I'd even want to be.)

Will Asperger's run your life for you? To precisely the degree you choose to allow it to.


It's your life. No one else's. You get to pick how it goes more than anyone or anything else.

Oddly enough, I don't think I want to be "cured" of Aspergers either. I'm 'happy' with my current arrangement in life even though I'm depressed everyday. Perhaps that is the biggest contradiction of them all however.


Stephen Hawking is a guy that I respect and I have read his books (Not just A Brief History of Time). He has a lot of time on his hands and most of that time has been spent postulating about the universe. Life must have been - and continues to be - very difficult for him because his ALS wasn't apparent at birth: It gradually became apparent in his late teens and early 20s as far as I know.


Kevin.

Chucky wrote:Oddly enough, I don't think I want to be "cured" of Aspergers either. I'm 'happy' with my current arrangement in life even though I'm depressed everyday. Perhaps that is the biggest contradiction of them all however.

This dichotomy is something I first encountered in my early 20's - that there is a certain "good" or perhaps even "pleasure" in feeling bad. Loneliness is not a positive emotion, but the strength of it does come from a positive place. If you're lonely it's because you're human, not inhuman.

It may be better to have than to not have, but at the same time the recogition that something is missing says something good about yourself. Besides, it is infinitely better to feel a negative than to feel nothing at all.

I learned to enjoy sensation of any kind, since retreating from the negative results only in further depression.

Chucky wrote:Stephen Hawking is a guy that I respect and I have read his books (Not just A Brief History of Time). He has a lot of time on his hands and most of that time has been spent postulating about the universe. Life must have been - and continues to be - very difficult for him because his ALS wasn't apparent at birth: It gradually became apparent in his late teens and early 20s as far as I know.

Yeah, he developed the symptoms of ALS in his early 20's while in graduate school. In some ways I think it requires more respect to have something only for it to be taken away the way Stephen Hawking had his motor ability taken away, then to face that, overcome it, and become a success in spite of it.


Look back on history. Sure, some of the "great men/women" had nothing wrong with them. But more than a few of them became superior because they were striving against some sort of shortcoming. Napoleon had his stature. Einstein had a learning disability. Glen Cunningham was burned alive and nearly lost both legs. This is why I refuse to treat AS like a crutch, like an excuse for what I can or can't do.

There's more than one route to any goal. If one's cut off by something simply plot an alternate course.

I have let it rule somethings i spend way too much time alone but we can learn coping statigys for situations.

In my mind, AS (or whatever is wrong with me) is like the puppeteer of my life, controlling every aspect of it, much to my dismay.

If I had a chance to rid myself of Aspergers syndrome, as long as it wasn't too extreme, I'd take it. Obviously right now I'd prefer to be in my own little world and trying my best to ignore the real world, but still, at the back of my mind I know it would be best for me and my family if I was "normal" and lived a normal life. It's okay right now being a recluse, but what happens in ten years time? I'm pretty sure I don't want to be living with my mum and dad in my late 20's and 30's.