Do you want to be my friend?

Sponge wrote:Maybe you are right and people are just busy with their own problems. More likely they are not interested in me. That's sad.

most people aren't interested in anyone other than themselves most of the time. that's just the way the world is. so, it's not you. and it's not sad unless you want it to be. candidly, i like not being noticed too much.

Sponge wrote:Maybe you are right and people are just busy with their own problems. More likely they are not interested in me. That's sad.

Busy in general is pretty likely for most people. Also, at least speaking for myself, I'm not sure what to add. Personally, just immediately PMing someone I don't know and trying to be friends is really hard. Instead, it may benefit you more to just be active on the boards and let friendships develop in the longer-term. Once some people understand more about you, maybe they'd be willing to talk over PM.

TDT wrote:Busy in general is pretty likely for most people. Also, at least speaking for myself, I'm not sure what to add. Personally, just immediately PMing someone I don't know and trying to be friends is really hard. Instead, it may benefit you more to just be active on the boards and let friendships develop in the longer-term. Once some people understand more about you, maybe they'd be willing to talk over PM.

Hello TDT!

Yep, I agree about being active on the boards and let people to understand more about me. There is the only one little problem - since I am not a native and people talk here about problems I am afraid to get posts incorrectly and give them bad advices.

I will try to read the forum more and I'll learn harder. Sometimes I just feel annoyed of difficulties of a foreign language. It takes me forever to type a reply! ))
I already did the big mistake in my first post - I typed "sole" instead of "soul" and people got me wrong, alas! Thanks shock_the_monkey helped!


I wanted to say that I'd like to find a friend who can help me understand my aspie boyfriend and people with AS in general. I am also willingly help to understand your NT friends. I think it is a good symbiosis - I can ask you questions about AS which I can't ask my boyfriend directly and you can ask me any questions about everything, really. This is the exchange of different views.

Sponge wrote:

TDT wrote:Busy in general is pretty likely for most people. Also, at least speaking for myself, I'm not sure what to add. Personally, just immediately PMing someone I don't know and trying to be friends is really hard. Instead, it may benefit you more to just be active on the boards and let friendships develop in the longer-term. Once some people understand more about you, maybe they'd be willing to talk over PM.

Hello TDT!

Yep, I agree about being active on the boards and let people to understand more about me. There is the only one little problem - since I am not a native and people talk here about problems I am afraid to get posts incorrectly and give them bad advices.

so, don't give advice. no one can blame you for just recounting your own experiences and allowing them to draw whatever inference they choose from these.

Sponge wrote:I will try to read the forum more and I'll learn harder. Sometimes I just feel annoyed of difficulties of a foreign language. It takes me forever to type a reply! ))
I already did the big mistake in my first post - I typed "sole" instead of "soul" and people got me wrong, alas! Thanks shock_the_monkey helped!

only people that never do anything never make any mistakes. we learn by our mistakes. they're not always a bad thing. we just need to be able to accept that and not feel too afraid to make any.

Sponge wrote:I wanted to say that I'd like to find a friend who can help me understand my aspie boyfriend and people with AS in general. I am also willingly help to understand your NT friends. I think it is a good symbiosis - I can ask you questions about AS which I can't ask my boyfriend directly and you can ask me any questions about everything, really. This is the exchange of different views.

i think you shouldn't be feeling unable to ask your boyfriend about his AS. i don't think that's at all healthy. my special friend never asks me anything about it (and i rather wish that she would at times). i have to tell her the thing i think she needs to know. but occasionally she makes little comments about struggling with some of my little peculiarities!!!

You, Sponge, are certainly an intriguing person. You are clearly captivating (judging by the way you talk, the way you address others, the way you display interest, the way you handle well-intentioned criticism, the way you choose to represent yourself in your avatar, and so on), yet you choose to look for friendship on the internet instead of enjoying the friendships you could easily attract in person. I'm sure it has something to do with your unique personality, but I wonder if it's also a cultural thing. It seems like Russians are more inclined to have an active interest in foreign cultures without a specific reason than people from most other countries are. Or is this just a mistaken impression I have formed?

Sponge wrote:I wanted to say that I'd like to find a friend who can help me understand my aspie boyfriend and people with AS in general. I am also willingly help to understand your NT friends. I think it is a good symbiosis - I can ask you questions about AS which I can't ask my boyfriend directly and you can ask me any questions about everything, really. This is the exchange of different views.

Funnily, I have been in this very role (of the one offering the "insider" point-of-view) at least half a dozen times within this one year that I have been a member of this site. I have never been in an actual relationship myself, but for some reason people usually seem to appreciate the relationship advice I give. If it's actually beneficial, then I'm more than glad to help. Feel free to PM me anytime. I don't mind talking to strangers.

Also, if you're (really) interested in talking about anything language-related, please don't hesitate to PM me. I'm an enthusiast when it comes to languages and linguistics (I actually work as a translator).

anagram,

It seems like Russians are more inclined to have an active interest in foreign cultures without a specific reason than people from most other countries are. Or is this just a mistaken impression I have formed?

I can't say for all Russians, of course, but I'm interested in learning foreign cultures. For me it's just natural to want to know how people live abroad, what they eat and what they think .

Funnily, I have been in this very role (of the one offering the "insider" point-of-view) at least half a dozen times within this one year that I have been a member of this site. I have never been in an actual relationship myself, but for some reason people usually seem to appreciate the relationship advice I give. If it's actually beneficial, then I'm more than glad to help. Feel free to PM me anytime. I don't mind talking to strangers.

Welcome, friend!! I'd like to chat with you. I will PM you for sure!

Are you a translator? That's great! I will ask you some questions via PM then.

Thanks!

shock_the_monkey,

I try to do not give advices. Especially when I am not sure what I am talking about )))

i think you shouldn't be feeling unable to ask your boyfriend about his AS. i don't think that's at all healthy. my special friend never asks me anything about it (and i rather wish that she would at times). i have to tell her the thing i think she needs to know. but occasionally she makes little comments about struggling with some of my little peculiarities!!!

Ohh, if you only knew how many questions I asked him already! I do not hesitate to ask him directly, but you know... some questions I still can't ask. I asked about panic attacks, obsessions, anxiety, his shyness and communication to others, fears and more and more.

It seems God (I am agnostic btw) gave me that incredible patience to handle all these problems with him!

I just wanted to say that you seem to be a very friendly and interesting person!

Demona wrote:I just wanted to say that you seem to be a very friendly and interesting person!

Thank you, made me smile

hi dear i am a normal person in a relationship with an aspie u can make me friend if u wud like and one more thing i m an intelligent person so i cud help u with ur problems

sufia wrote:hi dear i am a normal person in a relationship with an aspie u can make me friend if u wud like and one more thing i m an intelligent person so i cud help u with ur problems

Hello, sufia!
Thanks for the reply. I have a question for you - are you a native English speaker?

Just your "I am a normal person in a relationship..."sounds strange Like your aspie is not normal hehe. I guess you meant neurotypical person, not normal.


I'd like to get any help, yo yo!! )) Sadly, I don't have any problems for now.

I just want to share experience!