Aspergers and Sex

by **neal88** » Wed Mar 27, 2013 1:28 pm

Moving back to the topic at hand...

How many here have actually had sex, and found the event to be less pleasurable than, say, losing yourself in one of your obsessions/specialized interests?

Personally there are many things that feel better than sex. One of those is going back to sleep after my alarm goes off in the morning. It's like an orgasm in my eyes.

neal88 wrote:Moving back to the topic at hand...

How many here have actually had sex, and found the event to be less pleasurable than, say, losing yourself in one of your obsessions/specialized interests?

Personally there are many things that feel better than sex. One of those is going back to sleep after my alarm goes off in the morning. It's like an orgasm in my eyes.

LOL. I love that last paragraph, that would make a great signature :lol:

Sure, lots of things are just as good, like chocolate milk after you've been craving it all day :wink:

But I guess some people need it more than others. And apparently there's more to it than just that "a lot of people really like it". Wars have been fought over it. Long threads have been dedicated to it LOL I don't think we'd ever have 6 pages about sleeping in or chocolate milk, as much as we do enjoy such things.
But yeah, I hate morning so I'm with you on how awesome sleeping in is!

by **neal88** » Thu Mar 28, 2013 9:01 pm

According to NTs sex is this "mind blowing" experience of full-body pleasure accompanied by euphoria.

I don't get any of that...

by **shock_the_monkey** » Thu Mar 28, 2013 10:10 pm

neal88 wrote:According to NTs sex is this "mind blowing" experience of full-body pleasure accompanied by euphoria.

I don't get any of that...

as i've long stated on this forum, AS is likely related to the brain's inability to produce oxytocin. and oxytocin not only regulates emotion, it also provides the high from sexual activity. so, perhaps what you're saying shouldn't really surprise you.

by **Mistry-ous** » Sat Mar 30, 2013 4:29 am

Hmm...

I've had sex once, but I was drunk and it was with an unattractive girl. It wasn't fun. I was really awkward, complaining and tried to "keep it up." I've heard that everyone's first time is like this. Now I'm wondering that when I have sex again, (preferably sober with an attractive girl) that if it would be fun?

My ex-GF was beautiful and I really enjoyed making out with her. I'm wondering if good sex with the right person would be like that, but better? I also have to admit that I do like jerking off

. My friends do tell me that bad sex can be worse than a good "jerk-off" session. If thats the case, then sex seems overrated.

I also wonder if inexperience would be something that frowned upon? Maybe not so much, if the girl is understands who I am?

by **neal88** » Sat Mar 30, 2013 5:46 am

Meh...jerking off isn't that great for me either. I wonder if those SSRIs I took years ago permanently messed me up...

by **shock_the_monkey** » Sun Mar 31, 2013 12:34 am

neal88 wrote:I wonder if those SSRIs I took years ago permanently messed me up...

SSRIs, such as prozac, do affect libido but i very much doubt the affect is permanent.

by **madjoe** » Mon Apr 01, 2013 5:45 pm

Fengxian wrote:Seeing a prostitute whilst in a relationship is still cheating. If anything, it's worse since you are actively paying someone to have sex with you which degrades both parties, but the prostitute more imo.

I would be so mad if I found out my partner had paid for sex. It's still a breach of trust at the end of the day and still sharing with someone else what should be only with your partner.

prostitutes get more business from married men than anny other

-- Mon Apr 01, 2013 5:52 pm --

Sh3ld0n wrote:I'm interested...

Too tired to respond to some of the posts but intend to soon...

Just a teaser though...

Seeing a sex worker is not really cheating...since it usually involves the animalistic urges rather than the predominately cognitive aspects which defines a "meaningful" relationship.
Having an affair, on the other hand, is cheating I would have thought.

Surveys indicate that the majority of clients who see sex workers here in Oz are married men.
Many married men love their partner yet still see a sex worker.

On an adult forum I was on a few years ago, a number of husbands mentioned seeing a sex worker helped their marriage by allowing them to satisfy their purely sexual appetite while maintaining the relationship with their significant other.

Keep in mind that nothing mentioned above has any direct relationship to me personally.
I am merely being an objective observer without bias as far as that is possible.

Keep in mind, men tend to be polygamous...
Evolution has made them(us) what they are regardless of self denial...<shrug>
It is easier for women to be "virtuous" since they they have different genetically inspire imperatives...
I suggest people don't take the human animal too seriously...

some ppl think porn and/or mastorbation in a relationship is cheating

by **madjoe** » Mon Apr 01, 2013 6:02 pm

@Sh3ld0n
you crack me up loled hard

-- Mon Apr 01, 2013 6:09 pm --

Sh3ld0n wrote:And consider this:
In hospitals, it is common practice by nurses to masturbate patients who are incapable of doing so themselves, for sexual relief.
Apart from the exchange of money, isn't it essentially the same thing...I.E. the reduction of sexual frustration?

the world according to garp?

by **Sh3ld0n** » Thu Apr 18, 2013 5:41 am

neal88 wrote:Moving back to the topic at hand...

How many here have actually had sex, and found the event to be less pleasurable than, say, losing yourself in one of your obsessions/specialized interests?

I once told an NT acquaintance that continual sex must get boring after a while...
He looked at me dumbfounded...
Clearly we came from different planets... :shock:

But sex is fine...
It's the other person involved than is the problem... :mrgreen:

-- Thu Apr 18, 2013 3:47 pm --

madjoe wrote:some ppl think porn and/or mastorbation in a relationship is cheating

Some ppl aren't in touch with what it is to be human...<shrug>

Since I am not in a significant relationship (and never intend to be in onc), the issue is moot with me in a personal context...

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