Help for brother?

littlerose13 wrote:I think my best plan is to just email him intermittently that I love and care for him.

Great step forward. if he returns with a lot of accusations, just tel him as short as possible. "relax man you're wrong, I though about you and mailed, I did it because you're my brother and i care."

even better, send emails that does not seem forced. "hey can you believe the ............. won the cup this year. Didn't think they'd make it."

There's no reason for him to get angry at a mails like that, and the love is unmistakeable, because that's what caring people do, they share special moments. and even if the replies are hateful just ignore.

Main mistake in this whole situation is... you only care what you want from life and how it is supposed to look like.
Maybe he see the world differently, specialy as AS person, maybe he wants from it something different? Did you ever ask him what he wants, how he want to live his life to be happy for him, fullfilled?

Society created a norm, a scheme in with everybody life is revolving around, and if its going outside of it, its bad and should be fixed. Its put into people head since they are born, they dont even question it, they just take it as if they truly believe its the only way to live.

What if I would want to be homeless, stick to nature because it make me feel free??
What if I wouldnt want to be stuck into one place and have normal work, go to school and learn what the system say?
What if I just want to live life in wilderness like people did thousands of years ago?
Whats wrong with this way of life if its make me happy? Though it looks crazy for normal people.

Maybe your brother is sick to the point that he is completly loost and disoriented.
But maybe he know exactly what he is doing and it was his decision? Maybe he is just so brave person?

Its hard to say for me, since I never meet him. But all you should tell him is that you love him and want him to be happy. And all you should ask him is how he feels and what he wants from life.
If you love him, you shouldnt look how crazy his life look from your points of view, but if he is happy.

I wonder only, if he is really in so bad shape of mind and "budget", how did he even email you?
It require access to computer or device that have internet. Also why do he email? He could just never speak to you if he wanted, yet he make the contact. Maybe he wants you to know that he is doing ok, maybe fix the relation even by just throwing meat into your direction (since he dont know different way), maybe he seek help?

Like I wrote before, its really hard to say. I am crazy person myself, and how I view the world might be scary to look at. I wish you luck and happiness, to your brother and rest of family.

Some people do things, not because they are happy, but because it helps them to escape in some way, away from their feelings.

To a measure all people do this..be that watching TV, playing video games, reading, RPing, etc.

I think the problem here is the lashing out. It really doesn't appear that he's happy with his situation. Having done this for 3 years, and still avoids family contact is a bit concerning. Maybe he's really happy, I don't know...but I don't suspect he's happy. People tend not to be happy and lash out at the same time.

TDT wrote:Some people do things, not because they are happy, but because it helps them to escape in some way, away from their feelings.

To a measure all people do this..be that watching TV, playing video games, reading, RPing, etc.

Yes almost everybody of us escape this "world" in some way.
The term "escape" was made by people that stick to the norm I was talking about. Most of them say "you escape from reality", where for me reality is anything that exist, so how can you escape it?? All you escape are the taken norms, yet some people dont agree to follow them, so the "cult of normal people" say they escape.

Underconciousness say to us we need to escape, since we simply dont like the place we are in. Its common sense to escape danger and unfriendly areas. But not many have the guts to do this.
The question is if you really need to go and where you wanna go instead. Well most people fail at that, going from one place to other, where on both they are unhappy. Its really a problem inside them, or they have so strick requiements of the area they wanna be in, that its almost impossible to find.

I agree that he might require help, but I also count into the scenario where he is just "outsider".
There is load of variables and questions to answer to really be sure.