The Most Annoying Thing in the World: Mirroring

crystal_richardson_ wrote:mirror me. and you get nothing.

To be honest, crystal, I would not even want to mirror you.

I think what you mean is, you wouldn't be able to. and for this reason, you wouldn't feel in control of the interaction.

crystal_richardson_ wrote:histrionic or not all behaviour gets mirrored.

and it's annoying as fack.

So far, two people have indicated that it doesn't annoy them at all. I guess we'll wait and see how many do get annoyed, but I would imagine that the more extreme the behaviour of the one being mirrored the more obvious it would be and the more annoying it would become.

crystal_richardson_ wrote:I think what you mean is, you wouldn't be able to. and for this reason, you wouldn't feel in control of the interaction.

Oh no, I would certainly be capable of doing it. You're just not that interesting.

justonemoreperson wrote:

crystal_richardson_ wrote:histrionic or not all behaviour gets mirrored.

and it's annoying as fack.

So far, two people have indicated that it doesn't annoy them at all. I guess we'll wait and see how many do get annoyed, but I would imagine that the more extreme the behaviour of the one being mirrored the more obvious it would be and the more annoying it would become.

any mirroring is annoying. it's inauthentic. it's the act itself that is annoying. what it suggests. not the behaviour being mirrored back at me.

-- Tue May 22, 2012 9:38 am --

Demon wrote:

crystal_richardson_ wrote:I think what you mean is, you wouldn't be able to. and for this reason, you wouldn't feel in control of the interaction.

Oh no, I would certainly be capable of doing it. You're just not that interesting.

demon if you wanted something from me you would have a hard time getting it that's what I'm saying.

as a technique, it's elementary. as a natural tendency of all in social interaction, it's bloody annoying.

-- Tue May 22, 2012 9:40 am --

justonemoreperson wrote:

crystal_richardson_ wrote:histrionic or not all behaviour gets mirrored.

and it's annoying as fack.

So far, two people have indicated that it doesn't annoy them at all. I guess we'll wait and see how many do get annoyed, but I would imagine that the more extreme the behaviour of the one being mirrored the more obvious it would be and the more annoying it would become.

if I wanted to talk to myself, I would go talk to myself into the mirror.

I talk to others for what THEY have to offer. if all they have to offer is myself...well

I can get that any time.

crystal_richardson_ wrote:I think what you mean is, you wouldn't be able to. and for this reason, you wouldn't feel in control of the interaction.

You do realise what you're doing, right?

You do realise that you're prodding Demon in a similar way to that which you were complaining about on the forum yesterday?

You do realise that this behaviour has always, and will continue to, cause an argument between Demon and whoever is prodding her?

You do realise that by doing this you are derailing your own thread?

look, the reason people mirror us is because they assume we like people who are like us. so they act like us to gain our favour.

however, I like variety............

crystal_richardson_ wrote:demon if you wanted something from me you would have a hard time getting it that's what I'm saying.

I know what you're saying and I'm telling you that I could manipulate you easily. Your insecurities are blatantly obvious. You're more naive than you realize. You're a like a child throwing a tantrum sometimes. You make yourself emotionally vulnerable all too often.

Demon wrote:

crystal_richardson_ wrote:demon if you wanted something from me you would have a hard time getting it that's what I'm saying.

I know what you're saying and I'm telling you that I could manipulate you easily. You're insecurities are blatantly obvious. You're more naive than you realize. You're a like a child throwing a tantrum sometimes. You make yourself emotionally vulnerable all too often.

I am emotionally expressive but I actually feel very little demon.

crystal_richardson_ wrote:I am emotionally expressive but I actually feel very little demon.

You are very insecure, crystal. If you weren't, you wouldn't get as jealous as much as you do of other people, if at all, and you certainly wouldn't throw a tantrum every time someone refuses to give you attention. Being so afraid of becoming invisible to the world is what makes you so vulnerable. You're like a walking target just waiting to be hit, honestly.