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Is He A Sociopath

Postby Guest » Tue Oct 18, 2005 9:38 am

Hi

Im here to ask a few questions. I dont know anything about antisocial PD, but a few people I know have suggested to me that my ex bf is possibly affected by this disorder.

Here is a breif description of his personality and some of the behaviors he showed me in the 4 years I was with him.

He is a very selfish person. Doesnt like to buy people gifts, unless he knows he is getting something out of it. Acts put out when asked to help someone out, and sometimes refuses all together. Massive amounts of jealousy. He was extreamly controlling, wanted to tell me what to eat, where to sleep, how to wash my hair, who I can be friends with, when and how long I can see my parents, you get the point. Sadistic, including in a sexual way. enjoyed choking me while we were having sex. Physically abusive, hit me often. Used physical threats to control. Forced me to have sex with him, whenever and where ever he wanted. Extreame lack of empathy, enjoyed getting me so depressed and encouraging me to commit suicide only to stop me when I nearly acted. He would attack men in public places if they so much as looked at me in a flirtatious way.

When I finally left him, he wouldnt stop trying to contact me, hundreds of calls a day alternating from " I will kill you " to " I love you, please come back " after a certain amount of time he began stalking me, following me to public places and cornering me in bathrooms. I now have a restraining order against him, but Im so afraid sometimes.

Broke my rib, my nose, raped me only to comfort and hold me after, tried messing with my dads car. It was sheer hell, and dont ask me why i stayed with him, I dont know why, except I loved him :(

He was horrible, and I just need to know if there is a reason.
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Postby annon » Tue Oct 18, 2005 10:57 am

Well I am sure glad you are out of your relationship with him because your life might have been in danger if you hadn't. Antisocial people share a number of key traits but as a group they are as diverse as any other group of individuals. Your boyfriend expresses his deviancy through battering you while mine ( hypothetical situation) might be a great family man but carry out contracts on people who owe for gambeling debts for the local mafia. Another person might be a caring boyfriend but sell drugs for a gang while other might just use drugs and get arrested for recurrent physical fights. You did the best thing by getting out while you are still able to get out. You might want to take a hrd look at yourself not for purposes of self condemnation but to find out why you tolerated this so you can avoid ever going through this again. Best of luck to you.
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Postby Guest » Wed Oct 19, 2005 12:11 am

Annon :

Thankyou for your feedback. I am doing some searching within myself to find out why I stayed in this relationship for so long. \

Best of luck to you as well :D
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