The Official Off Topic Thread

The heel will probably break off... they look flimsy...

Tif the boot quality is decent the heels will be fine. Not a big fan of strappy shoes, but those are pretty cute. Is go for it.

It's official, god hates Japan...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-20571218

Dare we hope???

justonemoreperson wrote:It's official, god hates Japan...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-20571218

Dare we hope???

Life imitating art?

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0116040/

If you can call any stallone movies other than Rocky or First Blood "art".

I don't usually make New Yrs resolutions since Im making changes (or at least trying) throughout the year. This year my resolution is, "To be myself in every situation". I know it sounds unoriginal but I definitely believe that there is much inner conflict/struggle, and anxiety when your inner self is very different than you outter self. I think we've all had an experience where we regret "shooting from the hip" since it can sometimes cause confrontation. Then we retreat and hold things in for fear of embarrassing yourself or causing too much friction w/ others. I guess it's a slippery slope.

Is your outer self less you than your inner self, or the other way around?
And if there was one that was more real, shouldn't it be the outer one? Because countless people can vouch for the realness of the outer self, while there's only one who can ever vouch for the inner. :­P

Most of the popular people I know are only popular bc they wear the *right* things, look a certain way, constantly brag about how much money they have, and how well connected they are.

I can fake that stuff when there's something in it for me, like a job. It gets really old really fast, tho. The person I have to pretend to be, in order to be liked for the sake of maneouvering through a social environment is not a person I like. I wouldn't even talk to her if she were trying to convince me to do something for her.

And yet this is the person everyone vouches for IRL. It's strange how I can show more of my real self online, and people are ok with that. IRL I have to be totally fake if I'm in a position where approval matters. I think the incongruence has something to do with the way I look, or maybe the fact that I can't put up with mancandy hanging off me for very long. I've experimented with lying about having a boyfriend. It works in the short term, but if I'm in a situation where people need to see him, I don't bother. Likewise with lying about my employment status.

It's funny, I was totally floored the first time I lied about being employed, in my early 20s. I'd been reluctant to lie before that bc I thought people would want to talk shop. So I picked the most idiot-proof bitch job I could think of, a job that I always said was beneath me. I also expected some social one-upping for admitting to having such a lame job--receptionist. The guy I was talking to seemed quite charmed by my *confession*.

I find such low expectations extremely offputting. I also find it extremely offputting that I can say and do the exact same things, express the same likes&dislikes, level of education, everything--but people treat me like a menace to society if I tell the truth about my employment and marital status. When I lie about those 2 little things, I'm an object of admiration.

People are so fuked up.

@Xena:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOfIDtvfmqg
^The Schizoid anthem.

I should make friends with more schizoids, then.

My comment above was my grudging agreement with Obsi's comment, btw. Obsi's right about how it is, but I don't like it too muckin fuch.

Obsidian wrote:Is your outer self less you than your inner self, or the other way around?

I'd say they're equal.