Death Fantasies - Do You Have Them?

commedia wrote:- Is it a sexual turn on to fantasize about dying or is there some other reason behind it?
Dying isn't a turn on but it's because of the feeling that I get. It fills me with a great peace.
I would think about dying all of the time when I was a child. Some guy taking me, strapping me to a table and cutting me open. Seeing all the organs was pretty cool and back then I couldn't feel anything if it was a dream. Maybe it switched to falling when it started hurting.. Anyways, being kidnapped was a popular choice (looking back on this now 'popular choice' was a poor choice of words. 'Was common in these fantasies') . Tortured by some stranger. But some of the time it was pretty sexual, don't know when exactly that changed.. Was a filthy little kid back then. Like.. I was really young, about 5-9. Around 9 it changed to being non-sexual and more about falling and drowning.

Just realized that wasn't very clear. By sexual I meant in nature and sometimes it was just a turn on. Other times it was what it was, nothing to it.

I have a death fantasy...or murder fantasy. I want to be strangled to death, and yes it almost killed me. I was able to sway my bf at the time first through the choking fetish thing then it got more intense. One night he choked me so hard I blacked out...and for a while I think, I could hear music when i came to and there wasn't any music playing, plus my throat hurt all the next day. After that I told him we couldn't do it anymore (even though thinking about the incident had me totally aroused) but he said he still wanted to so I agreed and yeah it happened again, he had some anger in his eyes while doing it the second time. He seemed serious, like thumbs pressing on my windpipe.

It's actually not so much a thought or a fantasy but really more of an intense feeling or urge. I would never do it again, I danced with death twice and got lucky. Sometimes its better to keep fantasy a fantasy.

doesntfeelbeautiful wrote: Sometimes its better to keep fantasy a fantasy.

Or even eradicate it from fantasy. Get it out of your head, by any means (psychoanalysis or anything similar might help).

I don't have fantasies. I have ideas of varying levels of ambition that I realize over time.

Some are already a reality; others may take my entire lifetime, or will never become a reality.

A true fantasy is something that you think about as an end in itself, and not toward bringing it into reality.

A fantasy is NOT merely an ambitious idea...

crystal_richardson_ wrote:A true fantasy is something that you think about as an end in itself, and not toward bringing it into reality.

Then how do you explain all of the fantasies that were brought into reality?

For example: Serial killers usually fantasize about the murder before they commit it and it's not just done once, but repeatedly.

Hmmmm

If you are thinking about bringing the scenario into reality as you're imagining it than it's not really a fantasy or not just a fantasy, it's more like planning, going through the scenario in your head...

What you describe is starting off fantasizing, and then transitioning into a planning/going through the scenario kind of thinking which would not be fantasizing...

But initially it would be fantasizing or some combination of the above.

Because the purpose of fantasy is to express certain aims or desires, not plan.

Like it would not be accurate to say "Right now I am fantasizing about what I am going to have for breakfast tomorrow". I am imagining or planning, although there may be some elements of fantasy in imaging the food too, but the goal is actually eating the food, not just imagining it for pleasurable imagination's sake...

-- Fri May 24, 2013 7:57 am --

Demon wrote:For example: Serial killers usually fantasize about the murder before they commit it and it's not just done once, but repeatedly.

I think in this case it's a combination of fantasy and planning. Because the images are probably pleasurable, but the aim is also planning, not just pleasure, if they are going to subsequently do it.

I think pure fantasy is all about pleasure and there is no intent to actually do what is being fantasized about.

So how is it for you? Are your fantasies like planning too or just something you indulge in for its own sake, because it's pleasurable to imagine?

Like if you plan on doing it some time in the future than it will be a bit of both wouldn't it?

No death fantasies here. I do however fantasize about being half raped (half, because I enjoy it) when I masturbate, but this I only do because otherwise I would fantasize about hurting or killing someone and I would rather not intensify my need.
'Trolling for victims'... What difference does it make?

crystal_richardson_ wrote:

Demon wrote:For example: Serial killers usually fantasize about the murder before they commit it and it's not just done once, but repeatedly.

I think in this case it's a combination of fantasy and planning. Because the images are probably pleasurable, but the aim is also planning, not just pleasure, if they are going to subsequently do it.

I think pure fantasy is all about pleasure and there is no intent to actually do what is being fantasized about.

So how is it for you? Are your fantasies like planning too or just something you indulge in for its own sake, because it's pleasurable to imagine?

Like if you plan on doing it some time in the future than it will be a bit of both wouldn't it?

Most of my usual murder fantasies do involve planning. When I see someone I want to kill, I usually fantasize about how I'm going to lure and kill them. I also fantasize about mass murder occasionally. I only fantasize about killing a bunch of people in them though. There's no actual planning involved.

Demon wrote:Most of my usual murder fantasies do involve planning. When I see someone I want to kill, I usually fantasize about how I'm going to lure and kill them. I also fantasize about mass murder occasionally. I only fantasize about killing a bunch of people in them though. There's no actual planning involved.

How long do your murder moods last?

-- Sat May 25, 2013 12:48 pm --

cards wrote:No death fantasies here. I do however fantasize about being half raped (half, because I enjoy it) when I masturbate, but this I only do because otherwise I would fantasize about hurting or killing someone and I would rather not intensify my need.
'Trolling for victims'... What difference does it make?

Are you a guy or a girl?

I don't have death fantasises.