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Antisocial Love?

Postby Twinkling Butterfly » Tue Oct 25, 2011 5:42 am

I think I found it! :mrgreen:

Okay, I know it's just a comic, but seriously, have you ever felt that way about anyone?
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby Eric_Lee » Tue Oct 25, 2011 6:18 am

Like that comic specifically?

I do that with many specific people. Throw out large amounts of information, or repsonbilities/trust related things.. and see how people react. It's a technique to gauge those around you in certain areas of their personality based on what you throw out, and what they do.
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby Twinkling Butterfly » Tue Oct 25, 2011 7:14 am

What I meant was, have you ever wanted to give to someone because the person was rare and fascinating and probably had the potential to make the most of your gifts? I suppose it would be sort of like wanting to nurture an endangered species of tree in order to enjoy its rare fruit.
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby Eric_Lee » Tue Oct 25, 2011 5:02 pm

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:What I meant was, have you ever wanted to give to someone because the person was rare and fascinating and probably had the potential to make the most of your gifts? I suppose it would be sort of like wanting to nurture an endangered species of tree in order to enjoy its rare fruit.


No, not for those reasons. If i see potential in someone, i nurse it in person. Attempt to expose the parts of them i wish to see. Giving them things with the above mindset is foreign to me. Only in the way i outline in my first post.
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby katana » Tue Oct 25, 2011 6:26 pm

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:I think I found it! :mrgreen:


Lol! :lol:

also, thanks btw, this post also together with what some people wrote a while ago sent me off on a random tangent...
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby This other guy » Wed Oct 26, 2011 11:44 pm

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:I think I found it! :mrgreen:

Okay, I know it's just a comic, but seriously, have you ever felt that way about anyone?


This seems strangely accurate.

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:What I meant was, have you ever wanted to give to someone because the person was rare and fascinating and probably had the potential to make the most of your gifts? I suppose it would be sort of like wanting to nurture an endangered species of tree in order to enjoy its rare fruit.


Erhm no, it's just out of curiosity. I'm not specially nice with such persons, just more attentive; I give more of everything including the bad. Not that I don't develop fondness but I'm not really good at caring.
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby Helle » Fri Oct 28, 2011 11:57 am

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:I think I found it! :mrgreen:

Okay, I know it's just a comic, but seriously, have you ever felt that way about anyone?


I LOVE it! It's amazingly beautiful :)

I think I have. I'm sure I have... I don't know...
I need some meaning I can memorize,
The kind I have always seems to slip my mind
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby kanin » Fri Oct 28, 2011 7:24 pm

I have one person I mess with like that because he fascinates me. I don't give him things literally but I do push him around and poke at his dark side.

“We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”― Dr. Seuss
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby Twinkling Butterfly » Mon Feb 06, 2012 3:01 am

I think there may have been more to my tree analogy than I realized. When my trees were young, I was told that if I loved them, they would love me in return. This struck me as absurd, because what capacity could trees have for love?

If they didn't flower in season or if their leaves became soft and vulnerable, I would wonder whether I fed them too much or too little or if I fed them what I should have. I don't always know the best way to care for them, but I've come to understand what was meant by saying that they would love me if I loved them. If I would give them what they need from me and not spoil them—what is love for another living thing, if not this?—then they would respond accordingly.

Is it possible, then, to foster a loving relationship with a psychopath? In theory, yes. In practice, it's not certain. One would have to be well aware of what the psychopath's needs are and what they aren't.

Image That's what I think, anyway. I hope I'm not going to spoil you, but since you didn't make a mess while I was away...
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COOKIES ALL AROUND! :mrgreen:
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Re: Antisocial Love?

Postby Tempest88 » Mon Feb 06, 2012 3:32 am

Nice to see you back and posting again Twinkles! :wink:

I didn't really 'get' what you meant when you made this point at the time. Now, I get it.

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:COOKIES ALL AROUND!


Thank you, but the others might be upset that you only made enough for me :wink:
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