The Sociopathic Parent - Questionnaire

abracadabra wrote:Darling Nikki? First Prince song with a girl's name in it that I could think of. Of course, I guess your daughter could be named Purple Rain or something.

Or, like:

Insatiable
Irresistible Bitch
Goldn1gga
Jack U off
Lolita
Nasty Girl

Sorry, AMF. There's just soooo many. Prince makes this way too easy.

AlphaMikeFoxtrot wrote:When she was about 12 she informed me she "knew what I was, she'd researched it," and when I confirmed she was actually correct she told me I should "get help so maybe I would care about someone other than myself."

Interesting. What clued her in - or was it just you being yourself?

Demon wrote:Ever since I watched the movie 'Frailty' I've had this fantasy of raising a kid to become a serial killer (won't happen, of course). So, in that way, I can see how it would be advantageous, but other than that, I just don't see any advantage to being a sociopathic parent at all. What advantages were you thinking of when you answered "Yes" to that question, Myers? Or were you thinking disadvantages instead?

Actually, I was tired and didn't want to have to put effort into a lengthy response that the last few questions required, so I just typed in the frustratingly ambiguous "yes" to perpetuate the notion that I am an insufferable jackass.

But, since you asked... Parents who have a normal emotional responses tend to panic and act irrationally whenever their kid is in danger or even having troubles. That parental instinct compels them to butt in and protect their offspring, which isn't always a bad thing. But when the parent coddles the spoiled brat, the kid won't be prepared to handle problems on his or her own. It's the best way to craft a pawn or a moron.

Psychopaths, on the other hand, are much less likely to rescue the kid from trouble. If a psychopath has interest in the child and is motivated in solving the problem, they can do wonders in teaching and helping the kid to effectively face said problem. This can instill a sense of responsibility and self-reliance in the kid, even if the psychopathic parent has selfish intentions; i.e., wants to be left alone. The hard part is maintaining that level of care enough to at least help the child through troubles. If the psychopathic parent has any interest in the kid, it's usually because they want to craft the kid in their image, which is conditional positive regard, which, if you follow Rogerian theory, is bad and causes anxiety and whatnot.

I guess I'll have to use non-bold letters this time.....

Age:thirties

Gender:male

Relationship Status:married

Number of children, and their age/s: I own 3 kids...7,9,14

Were you clinically diagnosed?Yes

What was your motivation around having children?
None, they all just happened.
What was your relationship like with your parents?
I have had a normal relationship with my parents.
Describe your childhood?
Pretty normal...
What kind of parenting style do you have with your children?
I am not sure what this means...
How would you describe your relationship with your children, are you close?
They love me.
Do your children know you identify as a sociopath?
No, but I think my eldest has caught on that "dad" isn't "normal" but is amused by it. Lol
Have you ever been or wanted to be cruel towards your own children (directly, indirectly)?
Of course, it happens. Cruelty exists and there are varying degrees, I am playful with my cruelty though. Lol
How would your friends or family describe your parenting skills?
To tell you the truth, who gives a flying saucer what others think about my parenting skills, I have my detractors. I have my fans.
How has being a parent impacted on you?
It has taught me a great deal about humanity.
Do any of your children possess sociopathic traits?
Traits? Well, everyone does at different times but they are definitely not AsPDrs.
What are some of the positives of being a sociopathic parent?
You can make rational decisions about the child's life without emotions clouding your judgement.
What are some of the negatives of being a sociopathic parent?
Not understanding sometimes the struggles children have socially with their peers, trying to fit in and peer pressure, etc.
Do you think being a sociopathic parent gives you an advance/disadvantage over other parents?
I don't know....what really makes a good parent??? That is opening up a can of worms isn't it?
What morals/beliefs do you instill in your children?
I teach them the morals found in the Bible. The morals taught by Jesus.
How would it affect you if your children later were diagnosed as sociopaths?
It wouldn't......

A couple of comments that some of you might disagree with...."coldasice" & "alphafoxtrot" sound like sociopaths to me and the rest of us like psychopaths. Disorganized vs Organized. IMHO.

Also, on the subject of abortion.....all of us know what murder is.....enough said.

Mr. No One wrote:A couple of comments that some of you might disagree with...."coldasice" & "alphafoxtrot" sound like sociopaths to me and the rest of us like psychopaths. Disorganized vs Organized.

Please explain the difference in detail if possible. I have always heard the argument of the difference between the socio/psychopath, and I am told they are the same. You and Myers say they are not. Is organization and disorganization the only difference?

A couple of comments that some of you might disagree with...."coldasice" & "alphafoxtrot" sound like sociopaths to me and the rest of us like psychopaths. Disorganized vs Organized. IMHO.

If being Disorganized means I will not find myself taking care of a leech, that serves no purpose, I'll count it as a blessing. Unless if I was in a Relationship with a rich wife I couldn't see any reason to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars when I'm extremely unlikely to get that money back on my investment, that investment being a child.

Also, on the subject of abortion.....all of us know what murder is.....enough said.

If theres a logical reason to kill a fetus and its legal in their area, why shouldn't someone kill it?

burgandysnowflake wrote:

Mr. No One wrote:A couple of comments that some of you might disagree with...."coldasice" & "alphafoxtrot" sound like sociopaths to me and the rest of us like psychopaths. Disorganized vs Organized.

Please explain the difference in detail if possible. I have always heard the argument of the difference between the socio/psychopath, and I am told they are the same. You and Myers say they are not. Is organization and disorganization the only difference?

The easiest way to explain it is as follows......
Sociopaths are unable to keep jobs, relationships, situations for very long. Psychopaths do.
Sociopaths are like the wild child sibling that always flys by the seat of their pants, with
no rhyme or reason to their madness. Just random chaos if you end up in their world.
Psychopaths on the other hand calculate things sometimes for years. They envelope you
with stealth and science. They experiment over and over just to get that certain "look"
down or inflection of tone in their voice. Sociopaths lie for no apparent reason and they
don't care how outlandish it sounds, psychopaths lie very elaborate lies, always for a purpose.
Sociopaths only live for what they crave for this very second and will do anything to achieve it.
Psychopaths don't crave much besides total control of everyone and everything in their immediate
world. So psychopaths sacrifice for a greater goal. Sociopaths do not. Sociopaths might find them
selves homeless and broke and to them it does not matter "for they will find a victim soon and be
out of this mess." Psychopaths will become broke and homeless because it serves some purpose,
to hide, to garner sympathy or what not. Basically, it comes down to discipline or organization.

For example, "coldasice" defensive post. Read it again. "coldasice" fails to recognize a purpose for
a child. I could think of hundreds that fall in my favor. The logic is unorganized, shallow, only thinking
of what is right in front of the eyes and nose. And as for the logic when it comes to abortion, if it is
able to be done.....why not? This is typical of a sociopath. Only thinking of the here and now, what
needs to be satisfied now. Never a thought of where something could lead.

Of course, this is only my own theory. But if you look around in your life, you can see the difference when
comparing yourself to other AsPDers. Some of us have discipline and restraint, others do not. This is why
I count the differences.

Thanx!

Edit: disregard what was sent.

Demon wrote:I am against abortion because I believe abortion makes it way too easy for women to become whores and I have a genuine hatred for whores.

Does the same apply to interception, contraception, and sterilization? Also (I think I know your answer, but I'd like to be sure) when you say...

Demon wrote:I believe every unborn child deserves a chance at life (unless the pregnancy was a result of rape),

...does that include unhatched blastocysts, whether lost to interception (natural or artificial) or kept in fertility labs? And why do you think the circumstances of a child's conception should determine whether it deserves a chance at life or not? I'm not trying to argue with you about it, but I'm interested.

Twinkling_Butterfly wrote:Does the same apply to interception, contraception, and sterilization? Also (I think I know your answer, but I'd like to be sure) when you say...

While I am against abortion, I am not against any and all methods used to prevent conception in the first place. People are breeding like rabbits. Why can't a woman and her partner settle for 1 or 2 children to create a family instead of 4 or 5?

Demon wrote:I believe every unborn child deserves a chance at life (unless the pregnancy was a result of rape),

...does that include unhatched blastocysts, whether lost to interception (natural or artificial) or kept in fertility labs?

Rape is the only exception.
Some women cannot have children, but would probably make wonderful mothers, so I am not against In Vitro Fertilisation. But in saying that, if a fertile woman does not ever want children, then why not sterilize her (provided she is at a reasonable age both physically and psychologically to undergo the operation). The same applies to a man who desires to have a vasectomy because he has decided he doesn't ever want children.

And why do you think the circumstances of a child's conception should determine whether it deserves a chance at life or not? I'm not trying to argue with you about it, but I'm interested.

In all honesty, my views toward abortion are related less to prostitutes (though they still apply) and more to the fact that my mother told me once that she should never have had kids. My mother made feel insignificant and worthless as a child as though I was nothing more than an obligation to her and she would have been happier if I had never been born. But I was born regardless and I believe I am here for a reason and a purpose. Maybe that's just some of my narcissism showing through. I don't know, but I believe there is a reason for everything in this world, so every unborn child has to have been conceived for a reason. Abortion is not part of the natural plan. My own child, for example, has made me grow up and be more responsible, yet in saying that, I've made a lot of mistakes in life and I will undoubtedly make more, because for some reason I just never seem to learn from some of them. I was heading down a dead-end road before I found out I was pregnant. While I still make mistakes from time to time, my daughter has shown me that there are other choices in life.