Wanting people to fear you

As a point of curiosity oh_that_guy, what leads you to believe worry comes into play? You show your assumptive nature here and I am curious as to the base of the assumption.

Worry is simply a platform for primarily imagined troubles. Indulging in 'worrying' seeps away from the present. In my experience I find the productive among us focus energy on the present rather than analyse the 'what ifs' that frequently coincide with worry.

It's natural for individuals to exhibit enjoyment from attaining a level of control, even more so if that level of control is repressed during childhood.

Let me respond to your one right after mine first.

I suppose I can see what you were getting at explaining the control bit, I'll admit I didn't give it time to sink in, so that's my fault. There isn't anything good or bad about thoughts, everyone has a sadistic thought pass through there brain, I can't give an example on control but maybe like a single parent working two jobs raising three kids, you can only tax the brain past capacity for so long, rage builds up with things like that. I'm not sure if that's sadistic in nature, but, yea.

Assumptive nature, yea that's pretty much me actually. When you say productive, how do you mean exactly? You may be sadistic innately, I would say I may be theoretical innately. As far as meaningfully productive on my part, I most certainly wouldn't define myself as that. As far as putting that to use in a society based on production and greed, I'd rather have no part in feeding into the corruption and I've been told they don't want my part in it anyway. I'd have to hear your view on "the productive among us" first though to continue that.

Enjoying control especially if repressed during childhood, I won't go into mine right now, but my experience would lead me to lean away from that statement. Not that I have much control of anything anyways, but the little I do I find very little satisfaction in it, too much stress for me to handle.

Vivienne wrote:My mother is a police officer, Sunlight_hurts. When one visits the exact location to 'help out' on numerous occasions suspicion is minimal. My attempts to contact my father have been entirely fruitless though as you can imagine. She has deliberately disposed or secured any possible means I could use to find his details. She forbids mention of it, and when I mention it anyhow the fights begin.

You can imagine my childhood. My darling over-controlling mother would insist on knowing the details of any acquaintances I came across. She would run background checks on family histories and forbid me from speaking to certain people altogether.

Oh, I had a very happy childhood. : ) Do not mistake this. Happy, but restrained. I am now free of such restraints.

How convenient, a murderer for a father, and a police office for a mother. She must not be very bright, to marry a murderer, and i hope she was smart enough to figure the more she made your father "unaccessable" the more likely you would end up as you have. Apparently not though! Look at you now.. all grown up, quite nicely, i might add. ^_^

Oh, the wonders of shaping our children to be exactly what we don't want... the loving creation of poor parenting.

Oh man, this gets more and more interesting as the show goes on.

Thank you, Vivienne, for making this an interesting topic that no longer talks of internal inferiority. (Come on, we all know the OP here only feels the need to make others fear him because he feels inferior without the power of their fear. )

Don't we all feel inferior at times? By the way I'm not bloody 'he'. And yes, really entertaining to read all about your tragic life stories.

Hmm, strange, after knowing a little of what kind of people are on this forum I don't feel inferior anymore.

You do realise I hijacked your threat on purpose Justcold?
What happened to the nursery rhymes?

Vivienne wrote:You do realise I hijacked your threat on purpose Justcold?
What happened to the nursery rhymes?

Ssssshhhhh! Don't tell her that! It ruins all the fun!

Sunlight_hurts wrote:

Vivienne wrote:My mother is a police officer, Sunlight_hurts. When one visits the exact location to 'help out' on numerous occasions suspicion is minimal. My attempts to contact my father have been entirely fruitless though as you can imagine. She has deliberately disposed or secured any possible means I could use to find his details. She forbids mention of it, and when I mention it anyhow the fights begin.

You can imagine my childhood. My darling over-controlling mother would insist on knowing the details of any acquaintances I came across. She would run background checks on family histories and forbid me from speaking to certain people altogether.

Oh, I had a very happy childhood. : ) Do not mistake this. Happy, but restrained. I am now free of such restraints.

How convenient, a murderer for a father, and a police office for a mother. She must not be very bright, to marry a murderer, and i hope she was smart enough to figure the more she made your father "unaccessable" the more likely you would end up as you have. Apparently not though! Look at you now.. all grown up, quite nicely, i might add. ^_^

Oh, the wonders of shaping our children to be exactly what we don't want... the loving creation of poor parenting.

Come on now, women are inherently emotional hence very illogical. To them it is the gina tingles that really matter, why do you think thugs, serial killers and other degenerates get laid? There's a theory that the female brain confuses the emotion of arousal with fear.

I don't think psychopaths want people to fear them... not really productive to blending in. All they want is to satisfy their ego and other needs, it is just convenient to use fear.

Anyways, does anyone here have a phobia? Or maybe a case of anxiety? I really have no clue when people experience or talk about anxiety. Would appreciate some insight.

kaotikone wrote:

Vivienne wrote:You do realise I hijacked your thread on purpose Justcold?
What happened to the nursery rhymes?

Ssssshhhhh! Don't tell her that! It ruins all the fun!

She's too insecure to understand fun.

Vivienne wrote:

kaotikone wrote:

Vivienne wrote:You do realise I hijacked your thread on purpose Justcold?
What happened to the nursery rhymes?

Ssssshhhhh! Don't tell her that! It ruins all the fun!

She's too insecure to understand fun.

So you and JustCold down for some real fun? They always say three is a crowd.