Friends And Other Mythical Creatures

Reaper wrote:

poxalis wrote:

Reaper wrote:...And Other Mythical Creatures

Go on....

I added that just for the catchy title.

Feel free to mention any mythical creatures you've heard of and want to discuss.

the Germans have an entire class of mythological creatures that hid in grain fields--feldgeister. the Roggenwolf was a wolf demon (perhaps, an early werewolf) who found the tender bellies of children quite delicious. Yet there was also the Kiddelhund--a dog that tickled children to death. the Getreidehahn was a rooster that pecked the eyes out of kids (sounds like a normal rooster to me). Then there is my favorite: the Roggenmuhme. A corn field she-demon with tits filled with tar, and nipples are spiked iron. She throws these enormous tits over her shoulder then runs as fast as a horse in order to capture children and churn them into butter.

(i don't have friends)

You can't beat the Germans for Grimm folklore... haha!

poxalis wrote:(i don't have friends)

Why not?

poxalis wrote:the Germans have an entire class of mythological creatures that hid in grain fields--feldgeister. the Roggenwolf was a wolf demon (perhaps, an early werewolf) who found the tender bellies of children quite delicious. Yet there was also the Kiddelhund--a dog that tickled children to death. the Getreidehahn was a rooster that pecked the eyes out of kids (sounds like a normal rooster to me). Then there is my favorite: the Roggenmuhme. A corn field she-demon with tits filled with tar, and nipples are spiked iron. She throws these enormous tits over her shoulder then runs as fast as a horse in order to capture children and churn them into butter.

The Germans really hate kids, huh.

I feel like I've answered this multiple times before, but I'm bored.

- What does friendship mean to you? How do you define someone as a genuine friend. What qualities do you value in them?

I define a friend as somebody I repeatedly choose to spend time with, and get something out of that relationship (emotionally, psychologically, sexually, financially, practically, etc).

I have one friend whose presence in my life I truly value. We've been a pair since we were in single digits. They've been there with me through a lot of @!@@@! up life events, and it often felt like they were the only person in my life who cared. There have been multiple points in my life where they were the only thing stopping me from suicide. They are the only person whose emotional distress makes me feel the urge to help them. They know the depths of my messed up mind and body, and unquestioningly accept and support me, which I've never experienced from anybody else.

- How long have you had your current friends for and why do you continue to maintain a relationship with them. What purpose do they serve? And is your friendship with them genuine. Why or why not?

Other than the previously mentioned #1 friend, I keep my other friends around because they bring something to my life. The vast majority of that is practical. They annoy me and I can't stand spending more than a few hours with them, but they're useful so I maintain enough of a connection with them that they'll want to be there when called upon. That amount of time spent maintaining that connection varies from person to person. As soon as the energy cost outweighs the benefit, I no longer interact with them. One I've been friends with for a few years, the others for 10-15 years. Plenty of others have come and gone in that time frame.

- Would a psychopath have genuine friends and maintain that friendship long-term? Why do you think they would or wouldn't?

Probably not


- Have you ever been friends with a psychopath? If yes, why do you think that friendship exists, and do you believe it's genuine?[/quote]

I don't think so. I've had one other friend that was detached like me, but overall I tend to be friends with the other end of the spectrum - wildly emotional and highly anxious. I think it makes me feel better because I see their insane meltdowns and it makes me feel superior by comparison.

ViniStonemoss wrote:

poxalis wrote:(i don't have friends)

Why not?

I get no joy out of it. It's annoying, requires effort, demands regularity, creates drama, and is stressful. Also, on occasion, unwanted sexual encounters. I imagine there may be a group out there I could get along with but I've yet to find them. About the time I hit highschool the friend thing started to become complicated for me.

justonemoreperson wrote:

Greebo wrote:It’s the wrong kind of question. We respect and admire people for their virtues and abilities but we love them for their flaws and idiosyncrasies.

I've seen this sentiment before and on the surface it seems to make sense, but I'm not sure we give it that much thought. I'm not the best expert on interpersonal relationships, but I think it's much more subtle than that; most of the reason we gel with other people is subconscious and not something we can rationalise.

Entirely spitballing (and mixing concepts) on my part but I’ve always interpreted it as relating to the social persona, the roles that everyone uses in social situations if for no other reason that social situations with their complex dynamics usually require them. Connectedness on the other hand occurs between the two selves in their entirety, warts and all, which likely, as you say, includes subconscious elements.

This I think is partly why some people prefer animals. If there is something wrong with their social persona, usually just a lack of social skills, anxiety etc then they struggle to get past the initial interactions. Animals offer a degree of connectedness without any social entanglements. That being said I read a couple of weeks ago that animal enthusiasts are found to share a varient of the OXT gene which causes an over production of oxytocin, so as a group we’re probably also quantifiably a little nuts.

In people with PDs due to either failed development or defensive compensations (typically below the conscious level) the self ends up in a deformed or mutilated state which no longer has the ability to tessellate properly with those of other people.

Greebo wrote: That being said I read a couple of weeks ago that animal enthusiasts are found to share a varient of the OXT gene which causes an over production of oxytocin, so as a group we’re probably also quantifiably a little nuts.

Having worked in the veterinary field for many years...animal people are definitely nuts.

I can't decide if I'm a people or animal person. I really like my parrot, but most other animals annoy the fuk out of me (more than she does at times). Humanity is a disease and I'd rather cure it with the blade of a knife than befriend it, yet I do like socializing.

I think if you’ve spent your time gutting small furry things or throwing cats at trains we can safely say you’re not an animal lover, or at least not an animal lover in the commonly accepted sense.