Lack of Insight

I'll admit I don't understand myself. Whatever valuable info I gather in the moment loses it's relevance later. My most insightful moments have come from other people describing me mostly unintentionally. These insights don't seem to do anything in helping me function better at all. At this point I no longer try to think deeply on why I do this or that because it offers no help personally. And it's not due to lack of trying.

Do you guys understand each other well? I figure once I get older I'll develop a stronger sense of self. Perhaps this is a normal aspect of growing up.

Myself? Less and less. When I was younger, I knew exactly the whys of anything I did. It wasn't typically very effective or well-reasoned, but the motivation was clear. I find the older I get, the more I know what I want, how to get what I want, and what the result will be once I've got it. The why of it all kinda gets jumbled up in the past. I can come up with great reasons for it, but I can't say for sure they're my motivation.
Others? I've gotten a better handle on reading a room and how to approach different personality types, but, from what I've seen of others, past a certain point you find you don't care on the read as much.

I don't understand myself better with age. I just care less about understanding myself.

I have the best insight, a lot of people disagree with that but they can all drop dead from untreated lime disease

I agree that the OP lacks insight.

easiersaidthandone wrote:At this point I no longer try to think deeply on why I do this or that because it offers no help personally...

easiersaidthandone wrote:...And it's not due to lack of trying.

Most people don't have insight on themselves or even if they do, they still struggle to affect change.
Professionals usually assess me as "good insight"
I don't care enough about my insight or understanding myself to think about how it benefits me, but I do know having insight tends to make me really good at working with others. 

People benefit from objective more-knowledgable-others in their lives - like a psychologist should be.
Someone who also is able to perspective take, set aside morality and set aside how things "should be" to help you define your goals and meeting them relative to where you are now seems to be key.
It's all about subjective reality as far as I'm concerned.

Everyone thinks they have good insight on themselves until things happen to show that maybe their view of themselves is biased and the perception of yourself by others is not what you first thought.

I tend to think everything's going great, when maybe it hasn't gone as well as I thought. It reminds me of the episode of The Simpsons, where Homer's recollection of the party is that he was sophisticated and amusing, when in reality he spent most of the time with his head wedged between Maud Flander's tits and threw up on the cat.

Now I question myself more than I have previously, and I recognise that a lot of what I've done has been damaging to other people, which I prefer. I'd rather be the one to have caused the problems than be a victim of bad justice, as that just makes me angry.

The truth of the matter is people on here probably have better insight than 90% of the general population. The fact you know you don’t have insight is in fact insight. Most people scurry about their days doing whatever nonsense it is they feel the need to do and never look at what they are doing from the outside.

I’ve know people who go so sick they needed a Gaul bladder removed in emery surgery and they just thought they had a stomach ache. It’s different kind of insight but it is insight in that part of it is being in touch with your body’s needs. One reason (not the only) people fail to care for themselves properly is a lack of insight into their own needs. Which I suspect is why some people on here don’t eat or forget to eat, it’s not an emotional attachment to food just the lack of insight that their body is telling them they are hungry and need to eat

As far as my own insight personality wise, I’m stiff and not very outgoing when I’m in an unfamiliar environment. This is something I’ve been trying to work on my entire life, I think I’ve made tremendous stride in just expressing myself and occasionally someone will describe me as stiff, too concerned with what other people think, or flat and uncaring. I’ve done everything I can to improve those so when I hear that it’s a real punch in the balls.

ZeroZ wrote:As far as my own insight personality wise, I’m stiff and not very outgoing when I’m in an unfamiliar environment. This is something I’ve been trying to work on my entire life, I think I’ve made tremendous stride in just expressing myself and occasionally someone will describe me as stiff, too concerned with what other people think, or flat and uncaring. I’ve done everything I can to improve those so when I hear that it’s a real punch in the balls.

The problem with dealing with this type of stuff is that it makes you more aware of it, which makes it worse.

Have you ever thought about walking? We walk everywhere, never thinking about it, but when we do, the process of putting one step in front of the other, makes you walk worse.

It's a mistake we make about everything, we focus on stuff that we want to lose. Fat people go on diets, which make them think continuously about food. Alcoholics go to meeting to talk about alcohol. It's the complete opposite of what's needed by some, which would be a distraction away from it.

My advice: embrace your awkwardness. Accept that you'll be awkward and stiff in social situations and allow it. You'll probably find that it'll have the opposite effect and you'll be less so.

It's never the stuff we worry about that f*cks us up; it' always the stuff we never give any thought to.