Lack of Insight

justonemoreperson wrote:

ZeroZ wrote:As far as my own insight personality wise, I’m stiff and not very outgoing when I’m in an unfamiliar environment. This is something I’ve been trying to work on my entire life, I think I’ve made tremendous stride in just expressing myself and occasionally someone will describe me as stiff, too concerned with what other people think, or flat and uncaring. I’ve done everything I can to improve those so when I hear that it’s a real punch in the balls.

The problem with dealing with this type of stuff is that it makes you more aware of it, which makes it worse.

Have you ever thought about walking? We walk everywhere, never thinking about it, but when we do, the process of putting one step in front of the other, makes you walk worse.

It's a mistake we make about everything, we focus on stuff that we want to lose. Fat people go on diets, which make them think continuously about food. Alcoholics go to meeting to talk about alcohol. It's the complete opposite of what's needed by some, which would be a distraction away from it.

My advice: embrace your awkwardness. Accept that you'll be awkward and stiff in social situations and allow it. You'll probably find that it'll have the opposite effect and you'll be less so.

It's never the stuff we worry about that f*cks us up; it' always the stuff we never give any thought to.

justonemoreperson wrote:It's never the stuff we worry about that f*cks us up; it' always the stuff we never give any thought to.

ZeroZ wrote:As far as my own insight personality wise, I’m stiff and not very outgoing when I’m in an unfamiliar environment. This is something I’ve been trying to work on my entire life, I think I’ve made tremendous stride in just expressing myself and occasionally someone will describe me as stiff, too concerned with what other people think, or flat and uncaring. I’ve done everything I can to improve those so when I hear that it’s a real punch in the balls