Struggling to find comfort in a structured lifestyle

My life is so structured. And food, I love food. Sometimes I forget to eat though and other times I'm baking Russian apple cake, like yesterday.

Oblivion wrote:

salles wrote:I was recently reading about attachment styles and how it manifests in people's relationship to food.

Can you provide any links?

This was all I could find when I recently searched for a correlation while wondering if spd's apathy extends to food. I imagine those with PDs that are more 'hedonistic' could struggle with obesity. I do think a person's relationship to food is revealing.

https://goop.com/wellness/health/do-childhood-attachment-patterns-inform-our-relationship-with-food/

The problem I have with structure is twofold:

1. I feel coerced. It's other people's agenda that requires structure, not mine.
2. I flip too easily between ideas. So, even when I feel reasonably able to follow structure, tomorrow I won't.

I've tried to be effective with structure but it's too steep a hill to climb and so what I've come down to is 'just the bear minimum for my benefit, not others'.

A psych once talked to me about this and the idea of control; it's all about control and feeling coerced into towing the line, at least with me.

A lot of it is about perspective. "I set my alarm for 6:30 because I have to go to work" is similar but different to "I choose to set the alarm for 6:30 because I choose to go to work, because it gives me a better lifestyle."

It sounds trite, but if you can get your head around the idea it kinda works, at least for me.

I have a bunch of stuff I know that I must do to maintain my lifestyle, which I do. Most of it can be done automatically via the bank etc. That stuff I make sure I do but the rest of it can go f*ck itself.

it does sound trite but if u red my posts ud see I have similar problems and would prob help me.

i choose to make money. i can quit, any time I want. but choose not to.

saucygirl31 wrote: i can quit, any time I want. but choose not to.

How long have you quit? A year max? Sure.

huh?

i have been out of work for like a year, ya, at one point when I was homeless and trying to stabilize on meds slash was lazy slash thought my record would prevent me but I could get retail jobs who wounda thunk. im currently employed.