Empath

I’m not sure rat $#%^ has a feeling? Just lose everything you have, in the blink of an eye... Gone... just like that ~Fades into a dark foggy alley forever -

im not sold

ZeroZ wrote:I’m not sure rat $#%^ has a feeling? Just lose everything you have, in the blink of an eye... Gone... just like that ~Fades into a dark foggy alley forever -

It's happened before. I've lost everything a couple of times and it's always recovered but there have been times when it's only worked out due to luck. I don't like that I'm my own worst enemy if I don't force myself to control pretty much every action; it can be exhausting.

Also, I can't trust that my perspective is correct in some situations.

i hear u in regards to ur first paragraph

ya.. correct perspective.. of course not man its never totally correct unless u are studying numbers.

that's why i murdered my math scores and worked in a job where i sold them

I'm sh1t at maths.

im still right tho

Yes.

justonemoreperson wrote:@SDW

True, but moaning is also frowned up outside of the forum and moaners are seen as weak.

I agree with this. Weak. Yet somehow they keep win because they have a higher threshold for sitting around doing nothing and have far greater numbers creating the rules.

It's like cleaning. When I was living with messy house mates, the one who was the lowest threshold for messiness ended up doing the cleaning for everyone because their threshold was reached before any of the others so they will constantly be tidying up after everyone, doing their own head in.

Everyone seems to have different levels of hygiene but mental and emotional hygiene are often overlooked.

Moaning around not doing anything is like spreading the load of "emotional stress hygiene". I'm so sensitive to stress that I have to keep it relatively spotless or I can quickly spiral into wanting to pour a tank of gasoline on it and light it all on fire; whereas some people seem to be quite happy to roll around in their emotional unhygienic stress muck, grunting and mooing like a bunch of farm animals while spreading more and more mess until someone has to suit up in a hazmat suit and get neck deep in the filth with an oxy cutter and pliers.

I'm not saying that complainers are strong but they are definitely more tolerant to discomfort while doing nothing to change it and hence they can get away with not being responsible for it. On top of it, they band together so well that they create their own consumer market and those who want to fix dumb sh*t end up catering to them while being blamed for stuff that goes wrong while competing to find the bloody solution.

The only way I've managed to figure out a way to keep my sanity from unraveling is to recognize the strength in this weakness and try to figure out a way to profit off it in a way that I won't feel resentful.

Sell the solution as an outsider, not try to help as an insider.

The irony is that if I don't have the above "solution" in bold, I'll end up just another moaning; moaning about moaners.

Sell it don't tell it. Sometimes you just have to view others as cattle or wads of money that you can take from because if you don't they will trample all over and it will be the end of you.

You never see a surgeon living in squalor and, if you did, you'd worry how good they were, if they can't clean their own toilet.

Similarly, you'd never trust a person living in emotional squalor to be effective, because all they see are the problems and you need people to find a solution and own it.

Moaning is mental masturbation, where you indulge yourself in self-soothing mental rituals which serve to justify non-effective action.

Sitting at home and tugging your pork might make you feel better at the time, but afterwards you're still a lonely wanker. Moaning might make the person feel better at the time, but when people stop listening, they're still sat in the same emotional sludge as they were before, with the same problems.

I have the same aversion to them as you and see those who do it as pathetic.

it's most useless when moaning about something to people who have no power to fix it. like moaning about a colleague to everyone but that colleague. but in most cases the only person who can fix it is urself.

then theirs the whole, moaning about things u expect others to relate to. this can either be to get ideas on how to reframe the moan into something positive, or used manipulatively to self depreciate to pinpoint other moaners