Do you even care?

Squaredonutwheels wrote:I think it's the same with caring. I just try to assume I care and love just like everyone else. I have a massive suspicion that the entire thing is built on air, but I try to do a mind trick to pretend I have "faith" that after I practice enough skills, the foundation will fill in at a later date? It's a stab in the dark, but I have nothing to lose. That is why I am so resistant to people writing certain people off as saying they "can't" and never will. Some c*nts learn backwards. Assuming "faith" is the tricky part because it involves self deception, which doesn't come naturally for everyone.

saucygirl31 wrote:what does it feel like to care about something that has nothing to do with you?

saucygirl31 wrote:or is it just a mirror of happiness?

saucygirl31 wrote:well on second thought maybe i have felt that

like playing with kids on a church trip to help the needy. i went on the trip because i was with friends, but i helped the kids because being the person who made someone's day feels good too.

is that feeling, making someone's day, legitimate for caring?

or is it just a mirror of happiness?

Squaredonutwheels wrote:^For me I got stuck on math because I couldn't just "accept" things. There needed to be something "accepted" to build the rest on.

Me at school: "Why is 1+1=2?". But why? What is +? What is 1? Teacher: "It just is you retard. Stop asking questions and memorize it."

I was fortunate that my mother taught me patiently and explained the basics. When I asked why is 1+1=2 she explained that right now my brain wouldn't understand even if she told me and that I had to persist even if I didn't know "why" because eventually the skill I learned would mean I could go backwards and understand the foundation of what the rest was built on. So I just practiced the methods by "faith" until I had the ability to go back and rebuild the foundation.

She was right eventually. When I learned Peano axioms they show how to make numbers from scratch. It was like the entirety of maths was floating perilously unacceptably in the air until that point, and suddenly after all the years of pretending I knew what was going on, it all had somewhere to rest. The wonky thing is that one can't learn the Peano axioms first, even though that is what numbers are built from.

I think it's the same with caring. I just try to assume I care and love just like everyone else. I have a massive suspicion that the entire thing is built on air, but I try to do a mind trick to pretend I have "faith" that after I practice enough skills, the foundation will fill in at a later date? It's a stab in the dark, but I have nothing to lose. That is why I am so resistant to people writing certain people off as saying they "can't" and never will. Some c*nts learn backwards. Assuming "faith" is the tricky part because it involves self deception, which doesn't come naturally for everyone.