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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby user447135 » Mon Jul 30, 2018 11:49 am

Reaper wrote:I know from experience that I'm capable of hurting people and feeling no guilt or remorse over it. There's a complete lack of (emotional) empathy. I'm switched off most of the time to a state of cold, callous indifference.

There are these odd moments where I 'switch on' and I can briefly feel things I don't normally experience, like sympathy for an abused child. It confuses me because I don't understand it. I don't understand how I can go from being someone who normally lacks empathy and compassion to these brief moments of caring.

Do you have any thoughts on this? Can you relate to my experience?

Have you ever felt genuine sympathy for someone else?

From the little bit I've read about it, even a psychopath can feel sympathy. I think it really depends on where they sit on the spectrum (how psychopathic they are) as to how much or how often they feel it. I imagine most psychopaths wouldn't experience sympathy much. I'd like to see actual research on that though for confirmation. It would be interesting.


Please forgive me my Dark Lord Master, but your lowly pet has to relearn how to quote in sections.. but anyway.

I can relate.. I've felt genuine sympathy/empathy, especially as I've gotten old, not as old as you though... but I'm higher functioning than you. I've been able to practice and and learn to feel sympathy and empathy more often.. I still need to consciously think about it.. it doesn't come naturally, but thinking about it has become habit from practicing it regularly.

Btw, you can go from cold to caring because deep down you're a big old teddybear!
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby Reaper » Mon Jul 30, 2018 11:56 am

Sturm88 wrote:Btw, you can go from cold to caring because deep down you're a big old teddybear!


I don't think certain people and animals I've hurt would agree, but sure, lol, I can be a big ol' teddy bear when I want to be.
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby user447135 » Mon Jul 30, 2018 12:07 pm

Reaper wrote:I don't think certain people and animals I've hurt would agree, but sure, lol, I can be a big ol' teddy bear when I want to be.


Not ol', Demon... 'old' Teddybear. Who have you hurt and why?
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby Reaper » Mon Jul 30, 2018 12:36 pm

Sturm88 wrote:Who have you hurt and why?


You expect me to give you names? That ain't happening. I can tell you why I did it though:

Because they either pissed me off, it amused me or because I knew I'd get some pleasure out of hurting them. Sometimes I acted on impulse. I didn't stop and think about it, I just did it.
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby user447135 » Mon Jul 30, 2018 12:41 pm

Reaper wrote:You expect me to give you names? That ain't happening. I can tell you why I did it though:

Because they either pissed me off, it amused me or because I knew I'd get some pleasure out of hurting them.


Well... no Demon, I did not expect you to give me their names. It was more of an implied "who" as in... random stranger, friend, acquaintance, relative etc.. I'll try to be more specific with you in the future.

Why would I want their names? I'm not Judge Judy or anything...
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby jabberwocky » Mon Jul 30, 2018 12:50 pm

Reaper wrote:
Sturm88 wrote:Who have you hurt and why?


You expect me to give you names? That ain't happening. I can tell you why I did it though:

Because they either pissed me off, it amused me or because I knew I'd get some pleasure out of hurting them. Sometimes I acted on impulse. I didn't stop and think about it, I just did it.


OMG...Demon, you really are autistic. Do you actually lack the capacity to pick up on the simplest social cues? A child of 10 would have gotten the meaning behind that statement. Are you huffing paint, or using meth? You seem to have killed a lot more brain cells since the last time I saw you.
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby Reaper » Mon Jul 30, 2018 1:01 pm

You guys take everything so fuking seriously here.

I knew he/she/it didn't want any names. I was just being a smartass, so chill the fuk out.



Sturm88 wrote:It was more of an implied "who" as in... random stranger, friend, acquaintance, relative etc


I'm well aware of that, and my answer is all of the above.
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby jabberwocky » Mon Jul 30, 2018 1:04 pm

Reaper wrote:You guys take everything so fuking seriously here.

I knew he/she/it didn't want any names. I was just being a smartass, so chill the fuk out.


Don't do that, try to be a smartass. You're really not good at it.
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby Reaper » Mon Jul 30, 2018 1:05 pm

jabberwocky wrote:Don't do that, try to be a smartass. You're really not good at it.


It got you worked up, lol, so I think I'm pretty damn good at it.
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Re: From Cold And Callous To Caring

Postby jabberwocky » Mon Jul 30, 2018 1:13 pm

Reaper wrote:
jabberwocky wrote:Don't do that, try to be a smartass. You're really not good at it.


It got you worked up, lol, so I think I'm pretty damn good at it.


Still the same old song and dance with you. It's like trying to talk to a child. Yes, I got very worked up. You played me, Demon, you are truly too intelligent for me. :/
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