Warped reaction?

by **justonemoreperson** » Thu Jul 26, 2018 6:09 am

What could this be? Am I in denial or what?

The only thing I can think of is that you're building a psychological wall to resist sharing how you really feel with people around you. You probably subconsciously view it as a battle that needs to be won; to avoid showing weakness.

Do you have a history of having to be the responsible one; the one to be strong when things go wrong?

Sun Tzu: "Show yourself weak when you are strong and strong when you are weak and you will be invincible." Although I don't think the warrior monk was thinking of this as an example. I think it will be ultimately damaging to you.

Can you relate, have you ever noticed something similiar in yourself?

No.

justonemoreperson wrote:What could this be? Am I in denial or what?

The only thing I can think of is that you're building a psychological wall to resist sharing how you really feel with people around you. You probably subconsciously view it as a battle that needs to be won; to avoid showing weakness.

Well, I guess you may be right. 'most every situation can be seen as a battle' is an acquired mindset that has stuck with me.

Do you have a history of having to be the responsible one; the one to be strong when things go wrong?

Not really, as my 'default setting' is to avoid responsibility whenever possible.

cutecactus wrote:Doesn’t that seem kind of relevant to put in the OP, like more things you came up with later on? Did you even think your own question through?

Self-reflection is not my strong suit, but people's replies are nudging to practice it more, and what you see as an OP chopped to pieces is is a result of this very process.

Lol good luck with that. By “second opinion” I mean a real life doctor, you understand that right?

I do understand that, but I'm not in a position to start seeing a doctor now.

Thank you both for insight.

by **carmensandiego** » Mon Jul 30, 2018 2:32 am

I can maybe relate a little. I'm usually nicer when I'm angry. It's kind of the whole "keep your enemies closer" thing, or maybe "revenge is a dish best served cold."

I also have a bit of a masochistic streak, so I can relate to the feeling of happiness when things are bad. At some point they get so bad that the only thing to do is let go, which feels kind of cathartic.

by **ArchCannon** » Mon Jul 30, 2018 12:36 pm

"keep your enemies closer" When something is as widely known as this saying, there probably is some wisdom to it. I don't really know what to say about that masochistic streak though, I still feel like $#%^.

by **carmensandiego** » Tue Jul 31, 2018 1:15 am

Well, do you know why you're nice to the people you dislike?

by **ArchCannon** » Thu Aug 02, 2018 2:10 pm

Well, when I dislike someone, it means that I've had enough of putting up with their #######4. And displaying the fact that I dislike them makes them even more annoying.
At least this is my guess as for the reason behind this behavior.

by **carmensandiego** » Thu Aug 02, 2018 11:29 pm

Well, okay. I guess I can't relate. You're weird and fukced up. Welcome to the club.

by **ZombieZ** » Thu Aug 02, 2018 11:36 pm

Don’t feel bad sometimes I try and jerk off with both hands without missing a stroke. Times are tough.

by **ArchCannon** » Sat Aug 04, 2018 9:26 am

Fool wrote:keep your friends close etc?

discourtesy is rarely, if ever called for. personally, the only people i "dislike" are people who i have reason to distrust and who also have some form of potential influence in my affairs. antagonizing such a situation is just silly. there is no need to be rude to someone, even if you dislike them. it creates resistance, it legitimizes their behavior which is probably frustrating to begin with, and it may add fuel to an already kindling fire, which if you care about them enough to dislike them, probably means they are in a position to influence your life, for better or worse.

it may be warped but what isn't

Seems quite reasonable to me.

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