Decision taking

xSid wrote:How is your decision taking process? Do you decide quickly? Slowly? Think over it for ages, calculate pros and cons, etc? (feel free to skip the rest of the post, this is the basic topic to discuss)

My girl told me today that, for all the big amount of time it - apparently - takes me to think over stuff before deciding, I am surprisingly fast to make "bad" decisions.

It is true that I do need time to think stuff over. My thinking process can be as fast or as slow as the time allows, meaning, the more time I feel I have, the more I will ponder over something before making up my mind. However events never seem to wait for me, so I always end up making either completely random decisions, like going for the first thing that came to mind the second I had to decide, ignoring all the previous thought process. Or often I try to take "half-decisions", like make things move on, but without completely blocking myself from deciding either way at the end. The random thing more often

I’m similar, I wonder if it’s procrastination of making a decision? I tend to overthink things now because I’ve made enough poor decisions without thinking about all angles that I tend to look for potential pit falls that usually don’t exist. Unless it’s something I really want to do then I just do it.

needs must etc

if i don't gotta do it, it's probably not gonna get done unless there is some reason besides being "told to"

i guess it comes down to procrastinating. if i'm on my own and i'm not getting something out of it, i just don't see any reason to do it. if i'm in a group and no one will make a decision, i will make one and i will eat anyone who questions it because someone who won't make a decision but will whine about anyone who does deserves to get jesus punched imo. they are dead weight and irritate me because all they do is cause trouble for the sake of voicing their non-opinion

i am far more comfortable with other people making decisions in 99% of cases and i won't undermine or question it because it doesn't matter at all. that 1% is usually pretty important so i will make smart decisions if i can since i'm usually the only person affected by it

writing this i am aware that indecisiveness annoys me. i am not truly indecisive. people often ask what i intend to order at a restaurant for example, and i truly have no idea until i actually tell whoevr is taking the order. it's not that i can't decide, it's that deciding before i must is pointless imo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EbY0vuNt-Q

Fool wrote:
i am far more comfortable with other people making decisions in 99% of cases and i won't undermine or question it because it doesn't matter at all. that 1% is usually pretty important so i will make smart decisions if i can since i'm usually the only person affected by it

I can relate to this. I find making decisions that don't feel naturally good to me difficult and frustrating, so I don't like making decisions about stuff I don't care about if I don't have to.

justonemoreperson wrote:

Fool wrote:
i am far more comfortable with other people making decisions in 99% of cases and i won't undermine or question it because it doesn't matter at all. that 1% is usually pretty important so i will make smart decisions if i can since i'm usually the only person affected by it

I can relate to this. I find making decisions that don't feel naturally good to me difficult and frustrating, so I don't like making decisions about stuff I don't care about if I don't have to.

yep

actually find that i surround myself with "assertive" and organized individuals because they help manage the little things i ignore and balance me out.

my best friend is an engineer who is trying to become an entrepeneur. they are very, VERY organized and super good at keeping on top of things, and they make decisions that i would consider obsolete (not reallly :S) all the time. however when it comes to taking risks, they are far too conservative to actually make anything happen imo

in that instance i am the total opposite. i will put 100% of my mind behind something i believe in, even if it's only got a small chance of success, so on the surface it might look like pure impulse with no thought or decision behind it, but in actuality it is simply deciding that i want something enough to have it. my friend might want it too, but not enough to put themselves on the line for it

i think that is the difference. some people make lots of decisions on relatively small matters, others make a few decisions on relatively big matters. the former suffer from fomo, the latter suffer from recklessness

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAVx9RKaLPU

I hate responsibility so decision making is not for me...however I made a decision a long time ago to stay out of jail and I've stuck to that so I'm doing OK.

Fool wrote:needs must etc

if i don't gotta do it, it's probably not gonna get done unless there is some reason besides being "told to"

i guess it comes down to procrastinating. if i'm on my own and i'm not getting something out of it, i just don't see any reason to do it. if i'm in a group and no one will make a decision, i will make one and i will eat anyone who questions it because someone who won't make a decision but will whine about anyone who does deserves to get jesus punched imo. they are dead weight and irritate me because all they do is cause trouble for the sake of voicing their non-opinion

i am far more comfortable with other people making decisions in 99% of cases and i won't undermine or question it because it doesn't matter at all. that 1% is usually pretty important so i will make smart decisions if i can since i'm usually the only person affected by it

writing this i am aware that indecisiveness annoys me. i am not truly indecisive. people often ask what i intend to order at a restaurant for example, and i truly have no idea until i actually tell whoevr is taking the order. it's not that i can't decide, it's that deciding before i must is pointless imo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EbY0vuNt-Q

I agree with all of these. When people ask me about something trivial, like "where should we go next", 99% of the time I don't give a damn, I am up for anything, and will as well get annoyed if nobody suggests something and when I do, they nit pick it

I am talking mostly about more major decisions, that have an impact to my life. I realize I am simultaneously undecisive, in that I might think over it for hours, and very decisive, in that when the moment comes, I will just go with the first reactions that comes to me. Like if there is a disconnect between my thought process and the end result.

-- Sun Jul 22, 2018 5:47 pm --

ZombieZ wrote:
I’m similar, I wonder if it’s procrastination of making a decision?.

That is interesting. I wonder if this works in my case. Cause when the moment to actually make the decision comes, and I don't have any more time to procrastinate/think it over, I just react

Sometimes I think my rational thinking and my actual reactions belong to two different parts of my brain that don't communicate at all between them

I used to take a very long time, when I was really young, mainly because I as a young child was afraid of making the wrong decisions and I didn't want to get smacked up.

But now I make decisions very fast and quickly, even for general questions such as "Do you want to go to KFC or McDonald's?" because I figure that if you're going to be confused over one or the other, there's not much difference between the two to begin with and isn't worth being confused over.

Sometimes I am passionate, but otherwise I live by the toss of a coin.