xSid wrote:My question is for everyone with a personality disorder or other mental issue: In what way are you self-sabotaging your self?
I used to self-sabotage when I was working by being purposefully irresponsible because I hated the job and I didn't care if I got fired. I'd get drunk and high the night before and do it for so long that I would still be a bit drunk and high when I went to work. My boss even had to come around and get me out of bed once.
I was also having sex with a work colleague who I knew was married. His wife was pregnant and about to have their first kid, so I don't think he was getting much sex at home. We'd have sex during work and sometimes after work in the bosses house, which was near where we worked. We'd only do it when we knew he was going to be away for the night.
I was pretty impulsive and would do things at times without even thinking it through, but I don't consider that self-sabotage because it wasn't intentional.
What behavioral patterns do you sometimes follow that can be considered self-destructive?
I have (or used to have before Centerpay came about) a problem with money. I would spend it on things I wanted instead of paying my bills. I wasn't too bad in keeping up with the rent most of the time, but I did get 6 weeks behind at one stage.
I've also had problems with alcohol in the past. I've been evicted from a couple of places for getting drunk and making a general nuisance of myself. I can get more aggressive and violent when I'm drunk, but that only happens when socializing with others who I get into arguments with. I get pissed off easy.
I've been kicked out of a couple of public places (advised never to return) - a public bar and a medical clinic. I just think they over-reacted though. I didn't deserve that.
I also have this habit of being cocky with the police. I cannot stand anyone telling me what to do or not to do. I tell myself I shouldn't get cocky with the cops because it's not helping me, but I usually end up doing it anyway (not that I've had to deal with cops very often, fortunately).
Another thing that's self-destructive is that I don't take care of my health properly. I don't exercise as much as I should, or have any kind of regular eating habit, and I don't brush my teeth very often. I've already had a lot of dental work done on them and I'm still not taking care of them properly because I'm lazy. Problems with teeth can lead to other health issues.
I suppose getting angry easy is self-destructive too since it can (and at times in the past has) lead to violence, but I can't help that. I have low frustration tolerance.
My criminal activity is self-destructive as well because it could send me to prison one day if I'm not careful. I haven't done anything too serious in awhile though. Age and health issues are slowing me down.
There's probably other things I've forgotten to mention, but I can't think of anything else at the moment.