Monogamy/Polygamy

I am curious about other people's opinions on the subject (any PDs).

If you are married/in a monogamous relationship are you happy with that arrangement? How would you feel if your partner cheated on you?

My opinion may largely be influenced by my lack of ability to love/connect with someone but I also think that monogamy is not a natural inclination of human beings. Specifically with men, I have seen very few continue to be faithful in monogamous relationships. I also read somewhere that the pattern in human beings is to commit, have a child and then divorce/break the relationship. I will post that link when I find it.

polygamy is not the same as cheating right?

cheating is when other partners don't know about other partners, polygamy is when everyone knows about everyone.

i'd think cheating sows more distrust and resentment.

-- Wed Nov 22, 2017 11:27 am --

ScarletRaven wrote:My opinion may largely be influenced by my lack of ability to love/connect with someone but I also think that monogamy is not a natural inclination of human beings. Specifically with men, I have seen very few continue to be faithful in monogamous relationships. I also read somewhere that the pattern in human beings is to commit, have a child and then divorce/break the relationship. I will post that link when I find it.

i am hearing that a lot lately too but is it true or is it just something that's being made up because it works with the trends of today (high divorce rates)?

like where is the evidence that guys can't be monogamous?

it's true they have a history of cheating/having affairs in marriages even when monogamy was moreso the expectation but i mean there were often things pushing it in that direction like various stresses and temptations especially in the city.

i've never caught a guy cheating on me i've cheated tho

crystal_richardson_ wrote:polygamy is not the same as cheating right?

Obviously not but it does happen when people feel trapped in a monogamous relationship. Not to say that that is the only reason for cheating.

i am hearing that a lot lately too but is it true or is it just something that's being made up because it works with the trends of today (high divorce rates)?

like where is the evidence that guys can't be monogamous?

it's true they have a history of cheating/having affairs in marriages even when monogamy was moreso the expectation but i mean there were often things pushing it in that direction like various stresses and temptations especially in the city.

Monogamous marriage is actually a fairly recent concept as far as I am aware (in terms of human history) which was enforced by Catholicism. Prior to that Polygamy was widely accepted (Polygyny that is, where one man has multiple wives/lovers).

https://www.polygamy.com/articles/24411 ... f-polygamy

I am also not saying that men cannot be monogamous, I am just saying from my own experience they tend not to be.

that's right

like hunter gatherer societies were often polygamous

i dunno i think i prefer monogamy tho. it's not that cheating won't happen or that people should be hung for it, but monogamy if it doesn't feel repressive is preferable imo. it's just less crap to deal with, and also if you are possessive then monogamy i think.

the reason i cheated in the past was to get back at someone for something, i didn't really want to cheat. i was just angry/vengeful or felt neglected or something.

crystal_richardson_ wrote:polygamy is not the same as cheating right?

cheating is when other partners don't know about other partners, polygamy is when everyone knows about everyone.

i'd think cheating sows more distrust and resentment.

-- Wed Nov 22, 2017 11:27 am --

ScarletRaven wrote:My opinion may largely be influenced by my lack of ability to love/connect with someone but I also think that monogamy is not a natural inclination of human beings. Specifically with men, I have seen very few continue to be faithful in monogamous relationships. I also read somewhere that the pattern in human beings is to commit, have a child and then divorce/break the relationship. I will post that link when I find it.

i am hearing that a lot lately too but is it true or is it just something that's being made up because it works with the trends of today (high divorce rates)?

like where is the evidence that guys can't be monogamous?

it's true they have a history of cheating/having affairs in marriages even when monogamy was moreso the expectation but i mean there were often things pushing it in that direction like various stresses and temptations especially in the city.

All male mammals ###$ everyone (or try to) , why should we be monogamous?

i don't think it's a problem if everyone sleeps with everyone. like where sex is a social thing and people participate in orgies. i am fine with that.

but if one guy hoards all the women that's going to cause problems

that's why i think monogamy is better in general. because each man has a woman and viceversa.

the point is if everyone can be happy that way it does make sense to do things that way, however if it just won't jibe with human nature then i say screw it.

And why can't all the guys hoard all the women , and vice-versa? We condoms and HIV control nowadays , zero reason not to.

We should be like bonobos , calm bonobos

exactly, bonobos. all the guys fuk all the women

but that's not how ti is currently. there is discrimination, people are choosy, of understandably so, as a lot of people are undesirable sexual partners for one reason or another lol

that's why we need to kill off defective babies at birth, so we create a population of equally desirable mates.

anyway, i am veering off to a tangent

i was just pointing out the upsides of monogamy, and if the downsides can be eliminated, then i don't see why not.

Good