by thegirldifferent » Fri Aug 10, 2012 2:54 am
It would seem that most people are screwing me. I don't think people care very much for each other, we come with so many prickers, don't we all? And then something happens and people show you that they care very much, where you least expected it too. This is the crux of my BPD. After my mother died my siblings came through for me, and shared the estate, although my mother cut me out of the will. Do people not understand how much this hurts me and also lifts me up to think someone out there cared. When your mother and your father both write you off . . . for what? I was never in prison, not a prostitute. I was uneducated, now I have an education and I have yet to see where that is going to lead me. Thanks to a therapist who convinced me to go back to school, which I did and then some. I am glad for the opportunity but the negative tapes in my head installed by the parents aren't letting me see the good to come from it. 1/2 year out and I am only volunteering no paycheck. I know people will exploit me if I let them. Yes, we do see things others don't and it is frustrating as hell because you don't know if you really are crazy for seeing them. Therapists trained in DBT understand a little better today that we do see some things that are unacceptable and we will have to deal with them. DBT is not the end all be all . . . as a matter of fact I am using Transactional Analysis and you know what? It is helping me communicate in a way that conveys what I need. I wish therapists would try to bring more tools than DBT to the table.
The Transactional Analysis came quite by accident, a woman I met used to teach it, and coincidence would have it that I could use the simple method of figuring out how I need to be treated with respect and that it is not okay to put me down and then expect me to come round and help you out. NO I AM NOT A DOORMAT. I need simple solutions to communicate not to quiet my mind, that might happen if my head wasn't spinning from all the medication I am taking. Not that much really 100 mgs of Wellbutrin. I can't talk anymore.