Thank you for your reply. You are right. Suing the Health trust or hospital is not the answer. And even I could,I was told I would more than likely, not get legal aid. Which is a service paid for by the government. And that I would have to pay for all legal costs,that is lawyers,costs for taking the health trust to court myself. And even if I did get legal aid,if I were to take the health trust to court and lost the case.I would have to pay all of the legal fees and court costs,which would be several thousand pounds. And I don't have that kind of money anyway.
I am English and legal aid is a free service that the government pays for if you are on a low income. And have savings under £3000 pounds or on benefits with savings under £3000 pounds.In most cases legal aid covers seeing a lawyer for a consultation, but certainly does not cover suing the health trust unless in extreme circumstances and also there has to be proof of a case.
And I would have to be able to proved that I was badly treated. And I cannot really, as there were no witnesses, it is my word against theirs, and there is no written evidence on the medical records either.Well there would not be. As it is obvious that the A+E nurse would not write down in my medical notes that she told me to throw myself under a bus. She would not be that stupid as to admit what she said to me. So of course, it would not be in any of my medical notes what she said.
And you are right,I do not think that suing the health trust is the answer. And also it could turn the health trust against me and possibly stop me getting the support that I am now getting. Also most lawyers in England to not want to do any more than what they have to. Even in other cases,such as housing problems,and other things.
Most people with low incomes only get to see a lawyer through legal aid. And if for example the government will only pay for £200 pounds funding,a lawyer or solicitor, as they are mostly called in England. Will not do anything that is going to go over that funding. It is all about money to a lawyer or solicitor.
And as for charities and organisations like Mind and ICAS,well a lot of these charities are under funded and so provide a limited service. And probably work within the lines of the health trusts rather than against them. And so my problem is not covered by their services.
And as far as I know I do not know of any charities or support organisations for people who have been abused or mistreated by their health trust or hospital in England. There is no any in England that I know of.
Yes that nurse was wrong to say what she said to me.
A+E nurse said after I told her my father had just died and my family had cut me off. And I was feeling suicidal-
A+E nurse at the hospital said-
It is easy to kill yourself.You can throw yourself under a train or a bus,take insectaside,jump off a tall building.
Then laughed.
And I have taken it personally. But anyone else who would have spoken to her would have got the same treatment. She was not a very nice person. And the A+E psychiatrist that I also saw most probably did not want to get involved with my problems. Some people are just like that.
And the abuse I suffered was verbal not physical abuse. But I should have at least got an apology from the health trust manager, for the way that that nurse and psychiatrist spoke to me. As it was totally unacceptable.
And I think the reason that I am finding some people not showing me the sympathy that I am expecting them to,like my psychiatrist. Is that someone told me a lot of doctors will not condemn another doctor or medical person. And as it happened in the same health trust,some of the professionals may find it difficult to take sides with me against,what could be their fellow workers.
But on the other hand a lot of psychiatrist do not respond to other patients emotions in the same way that for example a friend or a councillor would. Most psychiatrists tend to just write and not talk.
But the experience has had a long lasting effect on me. And I have not lived a happy or easy life since my father died. For me it is the hardest thing in the world to loose my father and not even have a family to turn to. And harder still, when I look at other people around me who have still got their parents. Or may have lost a parent like I have but still have the support of the other parent or bothers or sisters. Which unfortunately I do not have.
But I have now come to accept that in view of the way the family treated me. And the fact that I and other members of my family,the aunts and uncles, have tried several times over the years to talk to my mother and sisters. But they have not listened to me or my uncles and aunts who have talked to them on my behalf. So the problems with my family has not been resolved. And may never be.
And so I decided to stop seeing my family myself in 2008. As I realised after years of trying. That even though they did let me visit the house,my mother and sisters did not care about me and did not want to get involved.And would not help me in a crisis like my dad would do. And that is why I stopped seeing them.
And now I want to move to another area, or another part of England to an area that is not controlled by health trust authorities. To get away from health trust authorities. And then I would be under a different health trust who may be more sympathetic to me. And it would also be a new start.
But it is very difficult to get private rented accommodation here in England and very expensive.And I may not be able to afford it. And private landlords are strict about who they take on as tenants.
But I think that it is good that I have come out a talked about my experience. And I do feel better venting off here.
And after reading some of the stories on here in this thread,which I am shocked by. As some people who have posted here on this thread have been physically abused and forcibly drugged. But that did not happen to me.
So maybe I am more fortunate than some other people have been.
Buffy.