psychiatrist blames client for their incompetence

during the past sixteen years, i've moved home 34 times

and immigrated back and forth between two countries for 12 times in total

all the sockal workers and psychiatrist did nothing to stop my parents from moving around so much

not only that, but they blamed me for being the cause of my parents moving around so much

so those idiots figured that, by giving me counseling services, i would naturally stop moving around.

it didn't work.

the social workers/psychiatrist would keep telling me to stop quitting school and making my parents move around so much...

while my parents would continue to keep signing me out of school to keep moving around...

year after year, time and again, the social workers and psychiatrists fails me.

16 years of failed intervention later,

a new psychiatrist has decided to look into my case

in the end, however, she just ended up trying to blame me for their 16 years of failure and incompentence.

the psychiatrist asked me the following questions multiple times:

"why didn't you tell us what happened back then?"

"did you tell us what was going on at the time?

"if you really told us what happened, when how come we don't have that information on our records?"

when i answered that i did tell everyone what happened back then, and that they didn't believe me, the psychiatrist did not look like she was satisfied with that answer.

near the end of the session, the psychiatrist asked me again:

"did you tell other people what happened back then?"

so i answered "yeah, my close friends, and also my other family members"

the psychiatrist then gleefully exclaimed "so you only told your friends and family about this? and nobody else?"

i became confused, and i stammered "y-yeah, i-i guess so"

after the session ended, i went home and i started thinking really hard about this

i thought that the psychiatrist was playing with her little words games with me

by getting me to admit that i only told "my friends and family about this"

i think it automatically means an admission of guilt that would absolved all the past social workers and psychiatrist of all their responsibilities.

my mom told me to give her the benefit of the doubt, but i'm more inclined to think that this is a common industry practice in the field of psychiatry

what do you guys think about this? am i overthinking things or was the psychiatrist really trying to deflect responsibilities?

Unfortunately this is what the mental health profession does, blame and shame. For a profession that's supposed to be about healing, it does nothing but leaves a client feeling defective, confused, and condemned.

It shouldn't be this way but often times we have to heal ourselves by ourselves. One of the most dangerous things you can do is see a mental health professional.

Before answering, I'd be curious to know why they're claiming they had to move all those times because of you

DaturaInnoxia wrote:Before answering, I'd be curious to know why they're claiming they had to move all those times because of you

wthout any proof, the first social worker wrote in her report falsely accusing me of having been kicked out of high school back in Canada, which she thought must be the reason why my parents had to leave the country.

the second social worker said pretty much the same thing, except she wrote even more crap about me

my parents and I have repeatedly told them that I was never kicked out of school, but they refuse to acknowledge they're wrong

then the first psychiatrist defaulted to the crucial worker notes, as did the second psychiatrist who also preferred defaulting to those notes, instead of hearing the truth, and seeing by report cards from Canada as proof.

and the more I deny those accusations, the more I get accused of being a liar by the psychiatrists

Yes, I'm seeing the (valid and reasonable) frustration in what you write in your post, but I'm still caught up in how a youth getting kicked out of high school would force adults into leaving a country

Has anyone managed to explain how they think that works?

May I ask your dx (if you haven't already stated it)?