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hi everyone, im new here and i have a question i hope some of u can give me some advice. (i think i put this post in the right section sorry if i didnt...) here goes:
my names michelle and im 17. i weigh nearly 80kg and am 175cm tall. i do not look at myself and think i am OBESE however i do obsess about my weight. i have tried just about every diet out there and i find that i go really good for the first 3 weeks or so then due to lack of sugar intake i totally pig out and stuff it and never get back into it.
exercise is not a problem for me, i walk a lot and have access to a gym, however food intake is my weak area.
i have often thought it would be sooo much easier to eat whatever hell food you like, chocolate chips lollies cake etc, then if u were to throw it up itd b like u never ate any of it!! that sounded good but when i went to try it, i put my fingers down my throat but i just cant seem to bring myself to do it, it just dont happen, this makes me very annoyed tho coz i had eaten it but it didnt come out...
anyone got advice for me?
i know i wont end up being aneroxic i will only lose enough weight til i weight about 65kg, not 80. i wouldnt go below 65 or so.
another thing that i am wondering about is i have heard that repetitive vomiting can cause tooth decay and stomach or liver problems or something? im nt sure please help me and i will read ur replies soon.
i really want to be able to eat wat i want then just throw it up afterwards and its like i never ate it at all.
sometimes i say to myself "I AM NOT GOING TO EAT THIS" and while i am saying it i am picking it up ready to stuff it in and that really pisses me off its like i have no control over my eating habits...
anyway sorry for d long post, i will go now haha.
ps. please reply...

I don't quite know how to advise you in the best way but I'll try. You said that you tried to make yourself sick but couldn't. Please try not to do that. Making yourself sick on purpose causes so many side effects - you seem to have a good knowledge of this already as you mentioned some of them but the list is not limited to those that you mentioned.

You also said that you wouldn't become anorexic but you have no way of knowing that at this stage. Often when people make themselves sick they find it hard to stop because it gives them control over what they are doing.

I don't know much about weight in kg but 65 seems to be dangerously slim to me and I really advise you to seek medical help get someone to assess you and help you. Maybe contact a food nutritionist who would be able to help you as well.

Losing weight - if that's what you want to do - is best done sensibly. Exercise as you have been doing but don't go on fad diets because they often don't work and make you feel that you ought to turn to either not eating or binge eating and then throwing up.

Talk to people around you about how you're feeling and they will be able to support you as well but please do try not to turn to anorexia as a way of losing weight.

well i thank you for your advice....
but i have tried every fad diet out there which all do NOT WORK (FOR ME ANYWAY HAHA) and i tried the whole "eat healthy and exercise" thing which worked..but i give up after a week or two at the most coz i feel denied of food and my body just pigs out. like i said i say no and i go and do it while saying no!! its soo bad..
trust me, 65kg is the ideal weight for my age, its not thin. i am nearly 80 kg now, which is a little on the big side.
im just looking for something that is quick, easy, and reliabe for weight loss coz i just keep running around in the "diet circle" and is really starting to depress me that i have been trying to lose the weight for soo long if it works i'll do it.
only thing thats stopping me is that it never seems to happen when i try, maybe im just a lil scared thats all??

Hey Michelle,
Hun, you said that you tend to eat things that you say you aren't going to, so what you do is, if you realize that you are doing that, try to stop yourself from doing it, unless it is a healthy food or an occasional snack. OK, here's a suggestion on what you could do to help yourself out in both losing weight, and with your eating quite a bit. Try to get a bunch of healthy foods, fruits, vegetables, low-fat or fat-free yogurt, cheese, stuff like that and when you feel to urge to munch, get a combination of a few of those things, but don't eat too much. Another way to help yourself out is to try eating 4 or 5 meals a day, instead of 3 (I'm assuming you normally eat 3 meals a day), but with smaller portions, and have a small snack between meals, but be sure it's healthy stuff. When you do eat snack food, like sugary stuff, or what not, don't eat very much of it. Healthy foods usually have a lot less calories than snack foods do, depending on what you eat, and if you eat healthier and exercise you should see results. I saw that you tried eating healthy and exercising and saw results, but gave up after a very short period of time. Try to stick with it. It will end up benefiting you in the long run.
Hope this helps, hun.
I know a lot of people aren't familiar with weight in kilograms, but 80 kg is equal to about 176 pounds, and 65 kg is equal to about 142 pounds. (Just thought I'd put those in for those of you that don't know much about it (I had to know the conversion factor for grams per pound for chemistry, so I decided to convert the kgs to pounds for people that didn't know how much they were in pounds))

~Jamie~