Anorexia is not a "girl disease".

I told someone that I'm anorexic. They said that if I "really want to be a guy", then I would stop this "girly not eating" stuff and bulk/man up. I couldn't believe they actually said that. They then said that "very, very, very few" guys get anorexia. Even though, last time I checked, 10% of eating disorder sufferers are guys. And then there are people like this that make guys not WANT to look for help. I was scared no one would take me seriously, at first.

I would love to have muscles, but I have a hard time lifting weight at all because I'm underweight.

They told me to stop because anorexia is a girl disease and it's girly.

I was unbelievably mad. And upset.

I wish I could just be over this stupid eating disorder...how did I even get into this?

You're right Schrei. It's not a "girl disease", but that's part of the stigma surround anorexia. The person who told you to get over it because it was a girl's disease is uneducated and had no place to make such a comment. It surely didn't come from a place of wanting to help.

I hope this hasn't turned you off trying to get help. *hugz*

It hasn't turned me off from help, but I feel like I'm bothering people when I talk about my problems.

My boyfriend wants me to tell my parents so that I can get help, but my parents don't react to anything normally, so I'm scared for them to know. I also liked that it was one secret I had to myself.

He made me a list of healthy foods that I could buy, and that helped. It actually helped me start eating again, but I'm still not eating normally. He says I'm not taking his advice and that I just outright refuse it. I try, but I'm not going to tell my mom. He threatened to tell my dad (who I'm going to move in with in August) about my eating disorder if I don't start eating or tell someone.

I am somewhat embarrassed that I'm a guy with an eating disorder because it's mostly associated with girls. I don't want to be thrown into a group therapy thing or recovery place and be surrounded by only girls. Also, most recovery places I'm finding are only for girls.

Please don't let one idiot keep you from taking care of yourself. Obviously, as ladyswan stated, the person was uneducated and was looking through the glasses of stereotypes. There are treatment centers for men, and I have run into them. I can't remember names specifically, but I'm sure timberline knolls would have one. Anyway, I would suggest that you talk to a professional and ask them to direct you to a men's recovery center. They do exist. Don't let yourself keep this a secret because of your gender. Anorexia isn't some diet that girls use to look good in a bikini; it is a disorder, and a mental one at that. It is something that goes on your head that involves weight and things, but is often stemmed from other underlying problems.