I am a man with eating/body issues

I used to be fat growing up before really slimming down. At one point I became so thin that everyone was concerned for me. But when I looked into the mirror I saw a fat person and I still can't shake that thought process. Recently I've gained about 10 pounds (caused by an increase in alcohol intake) and it's really depressing me. It's strange, sometimes I go for months watching what I eat, then I start binge eating. Any men out there with the same issueS?

Hi,

Actually - yes - I can relate to you. Im male, 26 and have been either bulimic or anorexic for the past few years. When I look in the mirror, I see a guy who is ugly and I cnstantly worry about my weight. I used to have a terrible diet when I was a teenager, but thankfully I got it right just in time for my 20s when my metabolism slowed down. I had to get therapy to help me though, as mybulimia was crushing my life. Over time, Ive come to accept bulimia as part of me, and this allows me to manage the bad symptoms of it more easily.

Kevin

Hi Kevin,

Thanks for both of your replies!

Of course therapy is not something that can be substituted, but I need to talk to people who are going through the same things. This is the best therapy to ease my mind. It's sort of a cliche way of thinking, but sometimes you feel like you're the only one and you feel sorry for yourself. Hearing from people with the same issues grounds you a bit.

Oh, certainly, that feeling of being the only one with the problem is a common feeling to have. Unfortunately, the anorexia part of this website isnt all too busy; and you might find better info elsewhere (on dedicated anorexia sites, for example). You probably know this already but eating disorders amongst males are increasing rapidly these days. So, you and I are definately not alone.

Kevin

Thanks very much for the info. I will check some other sites.

Cool. Please let me know if you find a good forum for it. I have had little time to search, given how busy I am here.

Kevin

I will certainly do so. I'm also very busy with other activities, so I'll try my best to find a GOOD place. This is a very good place.

I kinda am in the same boat..its very frustrating and shameful. asking for help hasnt occured to me yet Im still not able to do that and even though everyone tells me I should I still cant do it. its the worst struggle Ive ever had and it seems like Im losing all perspective on things and losing all relationships with ppl Ive been close to before this took over my life. Im lost, confused, ashamed, angry, hurt, embarassed and scared but yet that control issue has me convinced I dont need help. Im down to 118 and basically Im losing because my mind just wont let me eat..the guilt and shame isnt worth it.

Don't be ashamed Larry. Try to talk about it here maybe, and go into as much detail as you want to. We won't judge you because we're in the same boat as you. it'll help you I think.

Kevin