someone please help me

Less than a month ago I was raped, I know the person that raped me, and he held a gun to my head and told me I better never tell anyone, I have been really depressed lately and I have been cutting myself and dealing with an eating disorder, and I just took a hope pregnancy test, and It came back positive what do I do

babes- how old are you?

I'm 17

hey sweetie...
have you told anyone about this ?
do you have an adult or close friend you can trust to talk to ?
i think you could do with someone being there with you right now sweetheart...
*hugs*
please take gentle care of yourself... is there anything we can do ?
kate x

17. ok- well, you're a minor still, and frankly i would definately get help from some one. i know you are afraid he will hurt you, but is there any way you could talk to someone objectively removed from who you know (like a counsellor or a phone line or pastor or something?)

holding onto this will eat you alive. i really dont want you to hurt anymore than you are already now. of course he said he'd hurt you if you told- that's half of what these pricks get off on- holding you in fear- they feel so powerful etc.

did you go to the dr straight away when you were awake to get forensics done?

are you definately pregnant? because if you are, you can get DNA from the baby to prove it was him who raped you. he would obviously try the "consenting" thing, but if he's a major and not a minor (is he?) then he'l be up for statutory rape.

please let us know how you are doing. you shouldnt have to go thru this alone!

I personally believe that you need to reach out to whatever resources you have available, whether it be a parent, teacher, whatever. This guy needs to be put away for a long time for doing this to you. If you are pregnant, and sometimes those home tests are wrong, in your shoes I would put it up for adoption - but that's just my personal belief. But first of all, it won't be hard to put this guy behind bars for a long time, as long as you reach out and be PERSISTANT - don't let anybody tell you that you need to keep quiet about it. This is your life - fight for it.

I'm praying for ya I can't imagine being in that situation.

scary eighty-four wrote:This is your life - fight for it.

Damn right! - It is your life and no person has the right to infiltrate your rights in this way. What has happened to you is appaling and ranks as one of the worst offences in life, in my opinion. However, you now have a certain power to be able to punish this man. His state of mind is not right for society at present. People who are not punished could re-offend.


I would suggest (as other people have mentioned) talking to somebody about this - somebody with whom you are very close.

Take care,
Kevster

I encourage you to talk to your parents. They will help you through this. You were raped and scared. Don't wait any longer to tell. The longer you wait....the less chance you have to nail this bastard....unfortunatly in our messed up legal system. Like the others have said....being pregnant.....he messed up there. Right there is your proof it was rape. Maybe they can find the gun too....let the police be invovled and do an investigation.

But in the meantime....start w/ your parents. Let them be there for you and help you. don't fear them. You didn't do anything wrong. This isn't like you broke house rules or curfew or someting. You were raped. It's not like you were having unprotected sex w/ your boyfriend and now here you are pregnant at 17 adn gee how disappointed your parents will be w/ you. You were RAPED. They will love you and protect you. This isn't about some form of punishing their child now. This is about them protecting you and helping you. Trust in them!!!

hey sweetheart
just wanted you to know we're here for you if we can do anything... i hope you are ok, praying for you x