Resentment towards Boss

I work with a husband and wife for about 1 year now. We get along very well both in and out of the office. They have done very nice things for me and there is a great trust between us. But I've found over the course of my time with them that easily overshadowed by their kindness was their "bullying" of me. They want to come off as perfectionists but they definitely are not. If I make the simplest of mistakes it's a huge deal but if they make a mistake it's forgotten about.

I'm starting to feel resentment towards them from the brutal months of training for this job they provided me. I don't want to go out with them to dinner or on a boat, I'd rather be left alone. My issue is I don't know how to answer when they invite me out. I can't keep making up excuses. I'm in no position to be honest and tell them I have resentment towards them because I think it's risky. I'd love to be honest but I don't think they can handle the truth and think it can backfire.

It dawned on me that they will never take my recommendations. He feels since he's above me that whatever I recommend isn't good enough. Great example: I gave him the number to the guy that did my tax return and instead of paying the $75 fee I paid, he chose to pay $200 on a guy he found on the internet. I'll recommend a great restaurant but he will find his own restaurant then recommend it to me. I have been giving them the cold shoulder subtley here and there, hoping they will pick up on the fact that I will not tolerate their badgering anymore. They will get on my case for not wearing sunglasses outside for example! lol

So to sum up these unorganized thoughts: I need to know how to let them know that I feel I wasn't treated fairly in many situations throughout my career with them. I've been pushed to a point where I want to avoid social interaction with them. I don't want to run a marathon or go on a boat ride or out to dinner. I want to have my voice heard, because I don't have one here.

If you're doing a job and they are paying you for it then they are treating your fairly.

Most of the stuff you bring up is pretty small and insignificant.
It also seems as though they've trained you.

My advice is to stop whining and remember that what you have is a employee / employer relationship.

There are millions of people who can't get work, so either put up with the stuff you find annoying or go and get another job. No one is forcing you to stay there.

what a generic reply, id appreciate an opinion with insight not the classic canned answer of how people dont have jobs...

NukaTurkish wrote:what a generic reply, id appreciate an opinion with insight not the classic canned answer of how people dont have jobs...

I took the time to answer you, unlike anyone else, and you chose to greet that with rudeness. Not even a thank you for taking the time.
I think that speaks more about your situation than you'd be willing to admit.

But, incidentally, I think your thread is in the right forum.