A temperamental stalker

Is it possible to get some help here or is everybody on a coffee break?

I am in a relationship online that is not going so good.

I am being followed by a stalker who has a temper like hell and i wonder what i should do about it?

He clearly has a lot of problems and wants to put them all over me too...

He has so many problems that he needs a place to put them out, that is why he started a secret love affair with me online. If this was in real life he knows someone would have left him but since its online it just goes on and on and he clearly thinks that he can just barge right in whenever he feels like it.

I am getting so sick off him all he ever comes with are insults, i actually believed that he was serious for a while so i started to find a way for us to date. But then he never showed up and he has later told me that he only wants a mistress. I don`t want to be his mistress-so he gets angry because he wants me but only on a distance.
WHAT SHALL I DO???
He doesn`t have any respect for my boundaries, he is rude.

I don`t have to sit and beg for his attention when there are billions of right guys for me out there who is more then willing to offer a real life relationship.

He is so arrogant and i don`t even know what the heck i ever saw in him

How come 11 people have read my thread and i haven`t gotten one single answer??????? Is this forum full of dead people?

In some way i feel as if this stalker is only coming to me when he has a problem..he so desperately clings on to me and then blames me for all of his own problems and then also blaming me for them.

He isn`t always on top of his mood, feelings and then he begins to blame me for things that has gone bad in his life.

Even if i don`t actually have a part in his life but he still likes to think i have and he never responds well when he sees that i meet people in real life on facebook.

He wants to stop me from seeing other people but at the same time he doesn`t want this relationship to go into a real life thing.

Whenever i try to get out of our relationship he tries to guilt induce me in different ways. I used to have feelings for him as we both got something out of it in the beginning, but now it has just gotten to be something that halters me from my real life relationships.
I think its strange that he claims that he has so deep feelings for me but he doesn`t want anything to happen in RL? Which is why i want him to leave me alone.

At one point its good that he is so understanding but at the same time that charming offensive he is using could well be used by somebody else who is more real meaning then what he is.
I hate feeling as if i am a used mop that he just tosses away.
His attention has become worthless to me as i understand that he doesn`t really mean anything he is saying and he does it only so that he can wank off..

Any normal person would get my message and take a hike but he is so overly arrogant and obviously has very high thoughts about his manly hood that he just can`t let it go.
Also i think he is mentally unstable which doesn`t make our relationship any easier.

He does many strange things without ever coming clear about what he meant about it.

I have already stretched myself as far as i possibly could have gone in this so i know that i have done my best at trying to make this relationship work. I am sorry to say that he never did the same to me. He had a recent break up and will always use that and his work as an excuse for not wanting to see me in RL.

I have tried to tell him that i am busy in my life too but that only makes him laugh since i am work less.

We have been going back and forwards in our feelings for each other for a long while..
it has shifted from very hot to very cold in a sudden and always when i think that he is in love with me he backs away. So therefore i have tried my very best to forget about him, but there is always something to remind me of him and therefore that is not so easy.

He likes to play little mind games with me all the time and i find them very disrupting and disturbing.

It is disturbing that a guy who says he loves me doesn`t want to share reality with me.


He has provoked me for a long time with his mind games and i have "smacked" him virtually back every time for it.
This has resulted in him becoming worse and therefore attacking me.

He has gotten mentally abusive towards me.

I don`t like him anymore and he knows that, when i tell him that he turns on his charms and starts to act nicely and says that i am beautiful etc.....
but then he also says in the same sentence that i am not (in his opinion) worthy of a relationship. So i don`t understand why he is following me-and the only reason he is following me is because he is so angry all the time. Every time something happens in his job or his private life he comes over to me to send me his anger and then expects me to make it all good again.

I feel very abused and misused by this man on the internet who has so deeply involved himself in my personality and life.

And now i know why he did it, its so that he can always have some to abuse when things go bad for him.

I don`t like aggressive men like him and i hope my future partner doesn`t have his personality or anger problems.



Whenever i want to date someone else he tries to stop me by saying that i can`t have sex with them because of something that happened to me a long time ago.

This is not true i have been to the doctor and there is nothing wrong with me, he only likes to use this against me when he is angry again the reason i say this is to point out that he has a anger issue and problems with his own emotions.

I don`t like him and i don`t want his influence over me any more.

He has never contributed with anything positive in my life so i want him to leave immediately and go and bother some one else. I am not interested in arguing with him any more.

I also think that the reason he comes over to me is because everybody else is sick and tired of arguing with him all the time, so he goes out into the public of the internet to find other people because all his close friends are sick and tired of him(and no wonder).


He has taken the words "attack is the best defense" a little bit too far and never accepts anything negative being said about him.
He has a short temper and flies off the handle for every small thing being said about himself.

Every time i make a comment about him he feels as if he needs to defend himself. He doesn`t back away when he understands that the relationship is failing he stays in it to argue some more. Which again tells me that he has a anger issue.

I saw a video of him where he had some ticks in his face this made me realize that he has torrettes syndrom which means that maybe he can`t control his anger?

I find it difficult to "be with him" and want him to leave.

I AM SO SICK AND TIRED OF MY STALKER!!!!!!!!!!

WHEN I HAVEN`T BEEN ONLINE FOR A TIME HE GOES NUTS!!!!!!!!!
HE STARTS IMAGINING THAT I HAVE TAKEN SUICIDE
THE DUMB F*** KNOWS HE LIVES MILES AWAY ANYWAY AND I HE IS NOT MY THERAPIST
AFTER HE REALIZED THAT HE DIDN`T WANT THIS TO GO FURTHER THEN HIM WANKING OFF HE STARTED TO "GIVE ME THERAPY I HAVENT ASKED FOR"

I FU***** HATE THIS PERSON HE IS MARRIED BUT THEN HE GETS BAD CONSCIENCE FOR HAVING DRAGGED ME INTO HIS PERSONAL PERVERSE PROBLEMS AND NOW HE IS GOING TO LOOK AFTER ME LIKE I NEED HIS PARENTING