What Am I Supposed To Do

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Hi, 322! You could write down how you feel and tear up the paper or talk to someone more understanding. It's not ok that you feel like you have to take it out on yourself, you need support.

No one can MAKE you angry. It is your choice. You are in control of your reactions. It is said that When we are angry we are playing the victim the most. This is true because we are giving away our power. It is possible to learn that your anger is trying to tell you something about YOU, not others.
Your frustration could be with yourself for not knowing how to handle the people that trigger you. If you learn new ways to handle them and make yourself feel more in control of the situation, your anger may pass.
Keep talking here, it can help you process what your thinking.
Best wishes,
One

322 wrote:What am I supposed to do when someone makes me angry? If I keep it to myself, it builds up and I end up taking it out on myself later. If I tell them they are making me angry they act like I don't know what I'm talking about, like I'm just exaggerating it to get attention, which makes me even more angry and increases my chance of hurting them.

I think it is best not to say anything. Even if I take it out on myself, it's better because if I acted in that moment of rage I would very likely hurt or even kill someone.

if people aren't listening to you sounds like you need to learn to be assertive without being agressive. i know what you mean about people thinking you're doing stuff for attention, sometimes things that make one person angry don't make so much sense to the next person, but when you feel like you cant control yourself, i think it can be about learning to take a step back, walk away and then come back and tell them what you mean once you've calmed down a bit.

322 wrote:What am I supposed to do when someone makes me angry? If I keep it to myself, it builds up and I end up taking it out on myself later. If I tell them they are making me angry they act like I don't know what I'm talking about, like I'm just exaggerating it to get attention, which makes me even more angry and increases my chance of hurting them.

I think it is best not to say anything. Even if I take it out on myself, it's better because if I acted in that moment of rage I would very likely hurt or even kill someone.

When you tell someone they’re making you angry, how do you express that? Are you calm and matter-of-fact about it? Do you make sure to put the emphasis on you and your feelings rather than making it about them? Or are you aggressive and accusatory? Do you come off too strong too quickly?

I can get real pissed off over stupid, trivial stuff. A part of me realizes it’s stupid and trivial and if I were to express my anger in an aggressive way, it makes sense that others would play it down or dismiss me as overreacting.

Lately I’ve been trying to do several things to curb this kind of problem. I either try to discuss what’s bothering me before it festers into rage or I let the other person know that I’m upset and I need to step away. More often than not I just try to take more of a non-judgmental stance; I don’t say anything and then try to dissect whether my anger was really warranted. Usually it’s not.

Try to control your temper, that's the best way to manage your anger. Breath deeply and just let your anger pass..