Express and retrieve

I need to express and retrieve my emotions which I experienced in the past. That is why I am writing here tonight.

I had an acquaintance who slept with a politician and had money around 3000 dollars monthly.

Now she works for the ministry.

When I first heard about the fact of her going out with the politician, I felt sick. Second, I tried to ignore it. Third, I made a clear line between me and her.

I think she is one of the dirties people I have ever seen. I feel like spitting on her face saying you are a whore.

I will never make friends with such dirty people. NEVER!!:(

Why did her sleeping with a politician make you so mad?

You mentioned Ministry. Do you mean religious ministry of A part of Government?
Either way you have made it clear that you some how are disturbed by her conduct. Yet you called her only an acquaintance. I wondered if this may not really be about this person but more about something deeper in you. Has this persons actions triggered you in some way? Could it be that you relate her actions to something form you own past? Perhaps a family members actions?
I thin you need to dig really deep into your own self and analyze why this has given you such a strong reaction. It may be the only way you gain some peace back in your life.
Best Wishes,
One

Do not judge them how they work to feed themselves. They have their own reason why things intend to.
How you two get acquaint? How long do you know her?

>Why did her sleeping with a politician make you so mad?

There are reasons.
One is 'cause the politician was married. She violated his wife's right by dating and sleeping with him.
Another is 'cause she received money from him by dating and sleeping with him.

No matter what other ppl say, I have every rights to be judgemental about this.

It is something you cannot drag along and dwell in, having affairs with a married spouse has been going on for thousands of years, if it isn't your problem, no need to get worked up about it.

There will be people we are going to come across, and some are going to make us very upset.

PinchOfSanity wrote:It is something you cannot drag along and dwell in, having affairs with a married spouse has been going on for thousands of years, if it isn't your problem, no need to get worked up about it.

There will be people we are going to come across, and some are going to make us very upset.

One time in Tokyo in 2001, I had a boyfriend. But he had another girlfriend, I found.
That almost killed me. Nobody can imagine how much I was hurt.
That is why I feel a strong rage against the people who have affairs out side of the relationship.

It is NOT my problem, yes...
I should not excessively affected by emotion about such a thing...
But I easily do get worked up about such matters...
I should know how to response to those matters. I should learn how not to be affected by such dirt...
Yes, sometimes I come across people who are not ethical...
I get mad at them and I drag along and dwell in their events.
I should not do so...

-- Wed Feb 08, 2012 6:48 am --

Why do I do so...?

I was thinking this morning about why I got so mad at her and her behaviours.

Hearing that she's sleeping with a married man stimulated my wound in my mind.
When I found out that my boyfriend was sleeping with another woman, it hurt my mind.
It was like being stubbed by a sharp knife in my mind.
I had blood coming out of my mind.
He betrayed my trust and he lied to me that he made a commitment with me.
He disrespected me and he played with me.

It was really hurting.
Hearing about her story triggered and reminded me of my pains and hurt emotions.
That is why I got so mad at her.

Personally, I stay away from people who sleep with a married person, because they are usually into dramas. They use their energies and concentrations not on jobs, study or friendship, but on a fuss.
They are very boring people.

I'm sorry that your boyfriend slept with another girl, totally immoral and distrustful.
I think you've answered your own question on why you've became so affected by this, yes, the profound effect bounced back onto you because something similar happened. You can share relevancy. Your right, it is a good idea to stay out of people's business before you get dragged along. The last thing you'd want is a single woman who slept with a family man coming to you for advice.

To take out your anger on this, I would suggest using the "Vent" forum on here, if I were to ever go berserk, I'd go there. If your religious or you believe in a more powerful presence around us, don't worry, Karma will get them and they will be punished.

Utterly disgraceful that a family man comes back from having sex with another woman at work to his family acting like nothing happened. I'd wreck him up if I ever knew him. Oh, and I would puncture his tires.

I actually understand why you are saying that. You just wanted to have someone to share this thoughts with. There's no problem with that, but by judging other peoples doing, that's not your problem anymore. Ignore her, you have made your part buy ending up everything to both of you. Now it is her time to make a choice. Whether to continue the sin that he has been doing or not to. Its up to her anymore since she'll be the one suffering from it in the end. You just have to be thankful that she came into your life and gave those lessons.