situational anger

I have a lot of anger in certain situations. Mostly whenever I am doing something and it wont work and I explode. For example, I live on a farm and I was working on a piece of equipment when something broke and I all of a sudden took a sledgehammer and was beating the crap out of it. It scared my friend that was helping me and made me feel bad because I dont like to be angry and I get nervous when other people get angry. I have tried to just walk away when I feel myself getting angry, but I dont want to be angry at all..... Im not sure what to do.

Hi;
I know exactly what you mean, I'm the same way. I don't really know if it's anger or more being totally frustrated about the situation we find ourselves in. The more I lose control of any situation the more frustrated I get...which usually ends up in a rage. Thankfully I don't act on it since most of my anger/frustration is aimed at people. I hope this helps, I justed wanted you to know there's someone who can relate.

I can relate to that. Sometimes the smallest things or ("add ups") of the day can tip the rage container. I can walk away like you, but don't you still feel it inside? I'm interested in learning how to cool that anger inside, paired with walking away, and keeping my rationality.

Does anyone have input on this?

I think anger has to do with the release of chemicals in the brain. Maybe it's protective measures, maybe it's whatever, I have no idea why, but there is always some kind of trigger.

Situationally, I can't give advice on being frustrated with an object, like fixing a car where more and more problems just pile up. If it involves people, here's a tidbit somebody gave me, if it strikes a chord with you, great, if you want to wipe your ass with it, be my guest, at least I threw it out there: When you hold expectations, you set yourself up for disappointment. How can you hold anyone to anything, because of what You think? They are called other people because you aren't them. Being let down is a horrible feeling in itself, why induce that feeling? Disappointment can lead to many things, anger is one that affects more than just you.