Annoyed with people who do not empathize

What is with people that not only do not empathize for your problem, pain, or issue, but they use your weaknesses or issue against you? It's like they want you to get enraged or angry. Why do they do that? They also get away with it and are protected by people in society.

It seems that there are many people like that in society. Has anybody else noticed that.

Thewiseone wrote:What is with people that not only do not empathize for your problem, pain, or issue, but they use your weaknesses or issue against you? It's like they want you to get enraged or angry. Why do they do that? They also get away with it and are protected by people in society.

It seems that there are many people like that in society. Has anybody else noticed that.

Thewiseone wrote:It's like they want you to get enraged or angry

Its a control thing. Being able to influence and control people's emotions puts a person in a position of power. The more you react the more power you give them.

Thewiseone wrote:What is with people that not only do not empathize for your problem, pain, or issue, but they use your weaknesses or issue against you? It's like they want you to get enraged or angry. Why do they do that? They also get away with it and are protected by people in society.

It seems that there are many people like that in society. Has anybody else noticed that.

Hi thewiseone,

Yes, absolutely you are right, there are lot of people society like yuo described here. See, in your probem you should not focus on others what they are doing to you or trying to annoy you. I can understand what are you saying, you meant that you are wanting empathatical listening. Well, i am sorry, there are few persons in this world, who likes this type listening. Cause it is so hard to relate anyone's pain and feelings.

From my side, you change thinking and give up expecting so much as you are doing right now, it is meaningless.

So it is relatively normal and not personal? Ok great!!!

Ravine wrote:

Thewiseone wrote:What is with people that not only do not empathize for your problem, pain, or issue, but they use your weaknesses or issue against you? It's like they want you to get enraged or angry. Why do they do that? They also get away with it and are protected by people in society.

It seems that there are many people like that in society. Has anybody else noticed that.

Hi thewiseone,

Yes, absolutely you are right, there are lot of people society like yuo described here. See, in your probem you should not focus on others what they are doing to you or trying to annoy you. I can understand what are you saying, you meant that you are wanting empathatical listening. Well, i am sorry, there are few persons in this world, who likes this type listening. Cause it is so hard to relate anyone's pain and feelings.

From my side, you change thinking and give up expecting so much as you are doing right now, it is meaningless.

Thewiseone wrote:What is with people that not only do not empathize for your problem, pain, or issue, but they use your weaknesses or issue against you? It's like they want you to get enraged or angry. Why do they do that? They also get away with it and are protected by people in society.

It seems that there are many people like that in society. Has anybody else noticed that.

Narcissistic people are very much like what you describe, and yes they are so difficult that they do make people really angry. Narcissists do use people against you, so it *seems* like 'they are protected by people in society'. Often they have few *real* friends because they piss off everyone.

Read a bit about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It helped me to know that I wasn't alone in feeling frustrated trying to deal with my spouse's difficult behavior.

I find this about everyone too, so I always end up getting angry towards them in my own mind, but not directly. I guess I'm angry with myself as well, since I can't overcome being so involved and annoyed by them. But since it seems like just about everyone is that way, that's why it's so extremely difficult to reason with and justify "just me" instead of them. I'm very very quiet to begin with so it's very hard to have to watch and listen to people just like you are talking about. EVERYONE wants to be in control. Even though I'm quiet, I still don't like to be talked AT. I expect others to talk WITH me. I have my own personal problems that destroy my self esteem, so I tend to blame everyone for that and well as being very hard on myself. I'd rather blame everyone else, but I end up feeling very guilty and angry with myself anyway....because I know for a fact, I have an illness, so I doubt myself all the time instead of others.
Pat

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so many people are cold hearted...my parents yell at me everyday..make me want to ****** explode.. but you just have to keep going just know you are loved...as long as you know your loved you can take any **** from anyone