how do you let go of your anger?

I'm asking "how and does it work?" I'm the type of person with many bottled emotions so when I have aggressive feelings like anger, my tendency is to always snap. It's like always the last straw for me.

Yesterday, something happened that made me mad, I tried to control myself. Succeeded from stopping myself from wrecking my house but failed miserably from showing it to others thanks to my voice and face and intense movements. Worse now is that I swear on my thoughts. I never swear before.

I've heard of verbalizing your anger i.e. "I'm very mad about what you did." but when I'm angry my mind is too washed to remember.

I thought that maybe starting a journal will let go of my feelings so I'm now blogging here (but I don't know for how long...I happen to be lazy) and so prevent the "last straw" phenomenon on me.

However I wish to know more of different methods to widen my options...I'm not really a sharing-type of person...and yes I might be looking for motivation on your replies if any.

Thank you.

hi moonwake,

If you want to control your anger, then what is the real cause and how it occurs in your mind. For this you have to control yourself and have to watch carefully, which thoughts are ok and which are not. Meant you can control yourself, others can't.

You when one is angered, he/she become total aware of where is he/she. If you catch the main occurrence of anger, then try to solve them and you will not angered.

Thanks

Most likely, you have issues beneath the surface which need to be explored but, you also need to become aware of triggers and stressors precipitating your anger, new coping skills to manage anger, and what thinking patterns may be contributing to your anger.

Log some of the situations which recently caused you to feel angry and fly off the handle.
1. What were the triggers?
2. What happened and what were you thinking?
3. Did you catastrophize the situation? Did you jump to false conclusions or personalize the situation? Were you stressed out by something else?

Distorted thinking and false beliefs such as: "I deserve to be treated..." or "I am entitled to..." contribute to anger escalation. If you can begin to control the hot self-talk and challenge your thinking with reality and truth - your angry emotions will defuse. Taking a Time-out is one of the best ways to control your anger.
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God bless!

thank you I'll try to practice those

whenever you are feeling anger its better go to cool and calm place .Just be relaxed there ,and try to find wat wrong you did.Its better to do meditation in the morning before sunrise.it will help you alot.

I have tendencies of snapping as well. What I do is, every time I feel like I'm about to snap already, I stay away from what is triggering the anger. For example, when my sister is trying to pick a fight, I just walk away and cool myself down. I don't stay and exchange shouts with her because that will definitely make me snap and do very violent things. When I feel like I'm over it, that's when I talk to her. So far, it's working pretty well with me.

I like the suggestion of the other people have made. I would just add that if you know you have a problem with bottling up your emotions, then you need to find a commitment within yourself to get on some kind of program, some kind of path of personal growth and change. Seek out people or methods that can help you, try meditation, exercise, go to a therapist, etc. All these things can help you, but the bottom line, the basic thing that can really help you is a commitment to yourself to do this. Not to wait for it to happen, but to take control of the steering wheel and begin to guide your life forward to a more healthy and positive place.

I hope this helps.