My Ex Girlfriend and Anger

So my girlfriend, or rather, my ex girlfriend has punched me a couple of times. The one time she slugged me in the face and the other time she acted out when we were driving.

I broke up with her because of these issues(along with other situations). Supposedly her mother and father have dealt with fights in physical ways and I guess she has learned this behavior.

Now I find myself giving it another shot, between her and I. I distrust her because of the violent ways and multiple other reasons. My main question is, how would somebody deal with this mistrust and violent tendencies when she gets angry?

Thanks.

Hi,

Are you asking how you should have dealt with her anger?; or how she herself should deal with it? If it's the latter, then medication could easily help to 'calm' her mind and reduce her levels of anger. I used to be bitterly angry about things but medication helped me to become more docile.

Kevin

I'm asking how she should handle her anger.

Is it worth giving it another shot with her even though the trust isn't exactly there? I once heard once you're an abuser, you usually tend to stay that way unless you get help etc.

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JackStarks wrote:I'm asking how she should handle her anger.

Is it worth giving it another shot with her even though the trust isn't exactly there? I once heard once you're an abuser, you usually tend to stay that way unless you get help etc.

That's not true (the last line), because people can very much change and I have personal experience of it. What I believe you should do is only give it another shot with her if she's willing to get help. Like I said, medication can really help her but she'll have to go to her doctor first about it. I'm strongly thinking that you're quite fond of her despite everything, right? In this light, surely she's worth another shot. She needs help.