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I'm Going To Get My Revenge!

Postby Lost » Mon Sep 29, 2008 8:48 am

I'm tired of getting kicked in he teeth by people. So now I am going to make them pay for it. I have withheld it for a long time, but I can see that no matter what I do I'll always get people that either put me down or try to hurt me in some way.
So now there gonna pay. If they thought they had it bad before, I'll teach them a new definition of "rough"
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Postby Chucky » Mon Sep 29, 2008 12:47 pm

... ...and your plan for getting this revenge are? Don't do anything that would only get yourself into trouble. I don't know what your views on prison are, but it ain't nice. I hate to speak the cliche here but you should go to a doctor about this, or at least talk to a family member. If you don't want to do either of those (which you probably don't), then explain here how people have pissed you off so much.
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Postby angercoach » Mon Sep 29, 2008 5:03 pm

Dear Friend,
I agree with Chucky. Please get help for yourself before you harm someone and then, pay the consequences for mismanaging your anger and ill actions.
This forum is geared to help you manage anger. Anger does not equal aggression and violence.
What will motivate you to change your vengeful feelings and hostile attitude towards others? Do you want to change your behavior?
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Postby Lost » Mon Sep 29, 2008 11:36 pm

angercoach wrote:Dear Friend,
I agree with Chucky. Please get help for yourself before you harm someone and then, pay the consequences for mismanaging your anger and ill actions.
This forum is geared to help you manage anger. Anger does not equal aggression and violence.
What will motivate you to change your vengeful feelings and hostile attitude towards others? Do you want to change your behavior?


What would motivate me to change my vengeful feelings and hostile attitude toward others? Maybe if someone, for a change would listen. I'm tired of people telling I'm wrong all the time and I am tired of people assuming I have to behave. I could unloose a can of whoop-butt that would make these people think twice!
No one seems to understand. I try to tell people the truth, I try to tell them what it's been like for me and they don't want to hear it. I'm not saying I've had the worst life in the world, I know that isn;t true. But for once i want people to stop making excuses and to tell me to "get over it".
If I am supposed to "get over it", maybe THEY can get over it when some day, after some idiot has talked down to me or some moron tried to jump me I take a baseball bat and SMASH it into their head. Then THEY can get over it!
My own mother told me once that being me isn't good enough. She asked me if it was "working for me" (Dr. Phil, you know). She asked me if "being myself" was "working for me". Well, you know what, I see I was wrong now and she was right. I was wrong to think that people would care. If my own mother finds fault with me, then who can possibly not?
So, now you're going to get what you asked for. They want me to be the "bad guy", allthough I'm NOT the one that has piped, punched, choked or thrown knives at THEM.
As for "changing my behavior", oh yeah, I get it, I'm the bad one, right? You know I have heard that for a looooong time. When they used to verbally abuse me in school and beat me it was MY fault. It was MY fault for defending myself. It was always my fault, because THEY made the rules and then blamed me for defending myself. It was MY fault, because it must be the "retards" fault (that's what I got called for 12 years because I was in Special Ed).
What would motivate me? I want things to change! I want people to stop minimizing what this has done to me! I am tired of being told that was "long ago" and I should "get over it". If I got to get over it, then don't complain to me when they get a taste of their own medicine! YOU GET OVER IT THEN!
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Postby Chucky » Tue Sep 30, 2008 12:08 am

I think you're at a point where I was around two years ago: I was fed-up of having people tell me how I felt and fed-up of letting little shits think that they can make jokes out of me if I walk past them on the street. So, I got angry, openly, just like you appear you may do. I remember once, a group of youngsters said something to me when I had walked about 20 metres past them. So, I turned around and started to walk towards them aggressively and they backed-away. All I do now is give them the fingers (i.e. - the 'V' sign).

Just stand-up for yourself, but you don't necessarily have to go around with a sledghammer tucked under your long-coat to do that.
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Postby aquagurl119 » Tue Oct 14, 2008 6:14 am

K I know I posted in this thread I dunno if it got deleted cuz of what I said or if it just didn't show up.

Ya don't regret stuff ya did that was bad! Ya look at it as a learning experience and ya turn it into something you cherish because it changed who you are.

If the thread starter guy wants to get this revenge, even if it ends up gettin him in trouble, it is something he needs to EXPERIENCE before he can learn anything from it. We can't sit here telling him not to do it cuz that won't phase him.

He asked what would motivate him. Well experience is the only answer to that! People grow up much better when ya let em make mistakes. Ya gotta let people make mistakes. Even if it hurts them, that hurt then changes them and makes them better and happier people in the end.

My philosophy - use pain to heal. Make sense? Prolly not to the reader...but yeh it's basically like this: Ya got a nasty disease that's not gonna get better until ya take some medicine that makes ya sicker than before but it only lasts for a short while and yer completely healthy in the end!
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Postby seanetal » Tue Oct 14, 2008 7:53 pm

Aqua,

Odds are you posted while the server was being restarted - it's been slow for a few days so I restarted hoping that would fix things. Sorry about that.

That said, I agree with Chucky and Asuka. You can take a stand without causing harm to someone. Violence will only get you in trouble.
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Postby aquagurl119 » Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:24 pm

OK that's cool. Now I know why my avatar aint showin up :lol:
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Postby Chucky » Sat Oct 18, 2008 8:49 pm

Your avatar is still not showing, aquagurl. I don't think it's a problem with this website, however, because I tried to access your avatar directly (http://img527.imageshack.us/img527/5797/2954771870ok0.jpg) but it also did not load. It must therefore be a problem with imageshack.
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Postby Tenaciouscj » Wed Oct 22, 2008 1:33 pm

For years I repressed a lot of anger from being bullied as a child and teenager but then I couldn't keep repressing it and trying to forget it was there didn't work anymore. I don't have many big blow-ups now but get irritable fairly easily.
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