Controlling bad moods, easy irritation

Over the last few weeks especially but for longer really, I find myself getting very easily irritated by particularly my boyfriend. He will not be doing anything wrong, just asking for something and I will make some stupid remark or question why he wants it. I can tell I am doing it. Feel it building inside. At other times I will be getting irritated and my tone of voice changes and he picks up on this and gets angry and causes rows. I will find myself in a foul mood for no good reason and find it hard to get out of. I have no idea why I get like this. Often it is when things do not go exactly to plan or as I would like them. I will 'pull faces' according to him, go quiet and moody.

This is ruining or relationship. He says he cannot cope with it. He is a nervous kind of person and easily offended. We cannot be together if I cannot change....

Each time we split I promise to change and things are fine for a few weeks and then deteriorate again. I am at my wits end. I don't understand my moods or anger and don't know how to control them.

Please any advice....

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It could also be that you are having some hormonal imbalances and these are making your moods worse at various times. Your boyfriend might also be making a lot of demands on your time and you could subconsciously resent this.

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See getting irritated in life it is normal cases but too many times you need to change yourself to control anger emotions. You need to understand when you get annoyed him what will be his reaction? May be he is not understanding and he will very bad to you.

Second thing the one person who can control your anger is only you. Whenever you get angered do this try to calm down your mind or try to listen to him what he wants to say to you. If you do this then he will surely try to understand why are you were asking questions to him. OK?

"allveryconfusing" = Everything you have said is exactly whats going on with me! Everything could be fine, then all of a sudden you snap at the stupidest things! Cetrain sounds make me turn from perfectly relaxed and happy, to a angry irritated bitch! stropping around slamming things, the more your boyfriend asks whats wrong, they more annoying he gets, then when he stops thats just as annoying cuz he doesnt care!

I have two methods.

Either I controll myself, is being patient and shuts down those emotions.
Being emotionless and unsensitive to anything good or bad.
Being distanced no one can provoces me unless
I put down my defence and accept them as friends.
In that case I am very volnurable.

Or I don't control it. Instead use it or I think I am not really angry about this
and if I am angry I think of what I want to do when I am angry.
No body provoces me. Ever. Never.
No one tests me, no one jokes with me, no one flirts no one does anything.
No discussion, no demands and I make NO efforts.


My friends I prefere to be only sensitive, nice and very tender.



What am I am angry about.
I am not above being violent.
If I am angry then chances are other people will be understanding as well
and I am usually not angry unless I have an reason to be.
If I really need to be violent because I need it emotionally then I will hit
because frankly I feel I have the right.
I don't let anyone that has any chance of provocing me to be in my personal space because of this
so only someone has to stalk me or offence can provok me.
Peacefull solutions are $#%^.

I am angry because its the cause of provocations fault because I care
and I really care about X.
So I fix it.
If someone insults me I will never see that person again.
If there is an problem I fix it using my anger.

I do the same thing, I became very irritable like the first year with someone. I know where some of my anger comes from, but not all of it.

Me, and anger.

I had been misdiagnosed as having bipolar disorder, and the drugs weren't helping me with anger much at all. I kept thinking that other people were stupid and mean. I also felt terrible guilt about things in the past.

But when my counselor found out that I daydream....

( Daydream = ruminate, brood, stew over, meditate on, chafe inwardly, consider, deliberate, despond, dwell upon, eat one’s heart out, fret, gloom, grieve, lament, languish, mope, mull over, muse, ponder, reflect, repine, ruminate, sigh, speculate, stew over, sulk, sweat out*, sweat over, think about, think upon, worry )

Aha! It wasn't bipolar! It was schizoeffective disorder, bipolar type!

Now, risperdal takes care of a great deal of the anger, (the emotional part of the brain) and cognitive behavioral therapy takes care of the logic-forming part of the brain, the ruminating, daydreaming part.

Thanks to CBT, my inward self-talk has now changed from, "What a stupid person that is. or. HOW could I have done such a stupid thing." To the new self-talk. My counselor has given me self-talk that doesn't have anything to do with "How could she, he, I, DO that?" to the reality, that my stewing wasn't even based on reality as it is known by other people. (I didn't know that.. I had no idea my perspective was so different about myself and other people.)

Anger? Oh so much better! Between correct meds for the emotional part of the brain, and counseling for the logic part... It makes all the difference!