I don't want my anger!

Okay, here's my problem: I can't control my anger.. AT all! I'm not easily angered, but when I am, it's insane.

I'm usualy a very calm person, nothing really bothers me. But there's a certain few things that can, and when I come in contact with them, it's dangerous for anyone around me. Luckily I usually only get angry when I'm alone.

I have not tried many "Anger Control" excersises. But I don't exactly want to control it, I just don't want to feel the anger at all! Is this impossible?

For example, today I was on the phone with my girlfriend. I was in a cranky mood already, so I got mad at her for something really stupid. I don't burst out screaming or anything, when I am argueing with someone, I stay calm.. That's if the other person stays calm. But after we got off the phone, I just get a rush of anger. Like the Hulk. I start punching my first into the concrete part of my wall (I have enough fist holes), and then I go to the door and punch 4 holes into the door. I can only seem to calm my anger down once I feel pain to replace it.

However, I can't do that anymore. It scares peoples, and it scares myself. It is getting worse, before I could punch anything, without worrying about damage. Now my fist will go through walls, and I'm getting huge cuts on my knuckles. I'm afraid if it gets worse I'll be breaking my hands everytime I get mad. (Luckily I have strong bones)

But what I'm even more worried about is when me and my girlfriend move in together one day. I can never imagine hitting her. I've gotten mad around her once or twice, but I would just walk away and hit the wall. It scares her, she already doesn't feel safe, and I don't feel safe. Like I said, I can never imagine hitting her, but who knows... I want to control this anger while I'm still young, so it isn't a problem when I'm older.

What I can do to get rid of the anger? I don't want to feel it at all.

Ps. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 5 (Don't know if that has anything to do with Anger, but perhaps the reason why I can't concentrate and control it) and I used to live in two households that were in constant fighting, smashing, and yelling until I was about 12.

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I have a problem that whenever anyone doesn't work according to me when he is under my supervision I get angry a lot at that time.In that case I do a lot of loss for me.Sometimes at home also I start yelling at my big brother when he teases me just for fun.I actually don't like anyone teasing me.Please help me if you can...

How about logging the most recent situations when you have had outbursts. Answer these questions:
1. What was the trigger?
2. What was I thinking?
3. How did I respond?
4. What were the consequences?
5. What was the issue? Was it legitimate and valid? In other words, did you have a right to be angry? Or did you misjudge someone's behavior or remarks?
6. How could you have responded differently? What could you have said? Ex: instead of saying loudly, "Get off my case!" maybe you could have said in a normal tone of voice, "I don't appreciate the teasing. I'm leaving now." Or if a situation occurs at work: "Maybe I'm misunderstanding what you are saying. Can you clarify the problem?"

Make sure you implement a time-out whenever you feel anger raising it's ugly-head. Anger in itself is not always wrong unless you entertain evil intentions/thoughts and act aggressively or disrespectfully.
A time-out will help you cool-down and think through the issue and what you need to say or do to solve the problem in a mature way.

In response to your questions above, m problem is that a get angry when people not intentionally wnd me up. They see it as a matter of priciple and this just gets me so angry that I explode. Does anybody have any suggestions?

Nobody like angryness. Me too don't want my anger.

I keep thinking of the Incredible Hulk when Banner says, "Don't make me angry, you won't like me when I am angry."

That's the way I am. I black out and when I come to, what I find usually isn't pretty. My triggers are being backed into a corner where I cannot escape, or when I get frustrated. I have beaten cars when a bolt won't go into a hole, I have almost killed animals or people when they do not do what I want them to.

I have taken Anger Management classes and they have not helped. I can go from calm to rage in a micro-second with no warning...this is different than the black outs since I do remain conscious of what I am doing, just have trouble controlling it or stopping it.

I have learned to avoid people, and avoid situations where there may be confrontation. I let people walk over me because I do not want to stand up to them, in case they start pushing me, I will kill them. That is my solution to threats..I remove the threat.

I also used to hit walls and anything that would cause me pain. For me, I do not feel any emotions but Anger, so I would rather feel pain than anger...or nothing at all.... One shrink told me he thought I was a Schizoid, another told me I suffer from PTSD and another said I had Reactive Attachment Disorder.... My lack of emotions is another topic for another day....

I have been pretty good for quite a while, but that's because I avoid all interaction with people or things that might set me off...