Hit in anger

whenever i get angry i raise my hand it is almost instantaneous.... n then i feel sorry for doing that... i try so much to control myself but i have to raise my hand on the other person... how can i learn to control or better yet stop this.... thank you for your suggestions

Friend,
It is imperative that you begin to apply stress management and relaxation skills to your life. The fight/flight mechanism is highly irritable and stress management along with changing your thinking will bring about changes in your behavior. Here's a plan. When you first identify a trigger for anger - take a time-out. You need to start identifying and challenging your hot self-talk which is causing the aggressive behavior. During the week begin to apply relaxation procedure. Read the Mayo Clinic article on stress management: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/relaxa ... ue/SR00007

During relaxation you may want to incorporate prayer as many have found this helpful. Learning assertive communication is helpful but, you need to calm down the emotional center of your brain in order to learn other coping skills.

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I would highly encourage you to go for a counseling evaluation to rule out other mental health issues which may be precipatating this behavior also. Hope this is helpful for you!

I had a tumor a brain tumor DNET to be exact but now m better a part of the tumor is still there but tht is in my speech area and i would like to know if that could affect my behaviour as in anger.. I never thought this being so serious that i need to speak to a therapist.. I hit but just one shot and that's it and not everyone just my brother or sometimes my BF.. i wanna stop doing that to them... is your explanation applicable to this as in this that bad... or you thought of me being in a worse state...

It may be that the area of the brain affected is partly triggering anger. But, experts say that almost everyone can learn anger management skills and can improve their response to anger triggers.
I am suggesting counseling because you need to get anger under control quickly in order to avoid harming someone else and getting in trouble with the law.