How to deal with past despise?

I had bad memories and I want you
guide me that how to change negative energy from these bad memories to positive.


1-One of my friend had a similar condition like me,and he has schizophrenia....

He reviews his memories,I talked with him about forgive persons that mocked him,

He said he can not forgive him,He mocked him for period long time.

He mocked him when other friends were around him.

After years he didn't forget and he cann't forgive

2-I have similar conditions:

When I was in university,There was one employee there that he mocked me,for one year,and I failed that lesson, I had deal with him for one year.He despised me several times,and the teacher helped him!

This happened when I was in a class that we had to build circuit,and I couldn't.

Then teacher has started to despise me.......

1-What is the best way in these condition?Which ways do you suggest?(The condition that you deal with persons that despise you like that)

2-How could I change negative energy from these examples that I said(specially these examples) to positive energy?

I saw TV,Some one told we'd better love all,and then we say they have problems,Then It makes flower around us(because they have base of god),It is better than we have hate in our heart and have thorns around us.


Another thing:

Say I'm walking in street with my sister,Someone tell bad thing to us,

What is the best way in order to do in this condition?

If he repeats this,What is the best way in order to do?

Please guide me,Thank you

5 hours ago
About memory of that teacher,I think I have repeated this memory since 2-3 years ago every day!!

Hi,

When handling a difficult person, it is best to remember that you are a better person than them. They are showing their stupidity by upsetting you, but you are the intelligent & mature person. That is what helps me.

Kevin.

Beat up that person if you can. Otherwise just walk away.

Don't worry about people who say bad stuff about you. Only losers do that.

Don't become violent or beat up the person who is abusing you. Then, you will be arrested.
In a work situation - the best thing to do is walk away from the person. Don't say anything to the person. In fact, ignoring their misbehavior and put-downs is one of the best ways to stop it.
You can also report the problem behavior to a supervisor and ask for your desk to be moved to another area.

Regarding the teacher - you probably just have to put up with his/her behavior unless they become abusive or threatening. Log what happens and what the teacher says that is offensive to you. Then, write out what you could say in response such as: "When you tell me I am stupid (or whatever), I am very offended. I would appreciate it if you would not use those terms about me in the future."

Remember, you can report a teacher's bad behavior to administration. There is no excuse for verbal or any other kind of abuse.

In both scenarios - you can learn to be more assertive. Assertiveness will help you defend yourself and make them accountable for their bad behavior. Assertiveness is not aggressive but, it is honest, direct communication about the facts and letting others know what you need.
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