Hello, advice for my anger, jealousy, bitterness and anxiety

I have an issue of being alone, lately irritated. This is like my 1st or 2nd time posting here.

Never had a real girlfriend and as whack as that sounds (which it is) I'm sure it comes with some good and I'll enjoy having one soon.

I won't lie, everyone has a little anxiety, me more than others but I did ok at overcoming it for necessary things school, work etc but it always kept me back from getting what I want, I'm 28 now ND have a good career but depressed. Nvr took a med

I rely need to get a girlfriend and don't know where. Drove uber for 2mo and did meet few people but always anxious to have asked the ones that were nice to me or interested me. I am so fing depressed. One that lives near here and spoke for 10min, she even brushed my arm for a sec with her hand as she was talking intentionally but then put the wrong number in my phone before she left, I never thought of going to knock and ask but this has depressed me a lot, she was super nice an perfect blonde. I also think about couples a lot and get jealous and bitter to my stomach. I am very good looking andown any woman would be nice to me but with my anxiety I just want to cry like a btch. Is this wat ppl get drunk to cure? Maybe I never had an std or duI or does that mean nothing to Americans anymore.

Is this wat ppl get drunk to cure?

In some ways, yes.

What specifically do you find incapacitates you from pursuing your interest in a woman?

wow! I am sorry for that

Chances are that either you have self-esteem issues that cause you to lack confidence and "try too hard", which in turn makes you "awkward" with women, or you're perhaps over-confident and think you're perfect which puts them off. I would guess it's the first option though.

Honestly, I get that loneliness is a genuine issue, but it sounds like you're placing too much emphasis on finding a relationship that will make you happy. I strongly advise first figuring out how to be happy on your own, and finding self-acceptance i.e. accept that nobody is perfect and be happy with who you are. If you can achieve this without a relationship, firstly you'll be a much happier person in general. Secondly, that kind of true confidence (accepting yourself without thinking you're perfect) automatically makes you more attractive to women.

And getting drunk definitely won't cure anything.

Your problem can be simply solved. You care about the wrong things and don't care about the right things.

Stop caring about what others think of you. Start caring about yourself. It doesn't seem like you're growing and blossoming into the man you want to become. But trust me, don't ever take life so seriously. It is short and fast, why not live it? So what if you get rejected? At least you tried.

I made steps in my life that I'm proud. Not because I succeeded, but because I tried.

Get off your seat, stop feeling sorry and make a name for yourself. You are all you got. Don't look back 50 years from now and regret your youth. Ask yourself, will it matter then? No. Then it shouldn't matter now.

It's good to have your own little mantra to help you. As cliche as it sounds, "Just Do It" is one of my favorites. In those prime moments where you have the decision to either cower away and regret it later or try and possibly fail, tell yourself this "Just Do It" and really give the words meaning. At that moment, you should just do it. Make a game out of it. Like a video game. Like Fallout. Try different word options with different people. "Hey I wonder what will happen if I say 'this'!" Then let it play out.

Keep your head up high, always.

What do you care what other people think? Maybe the reason you don't have a girlfriend is you feel shame of seeing yourself through other people's eyes instead of seeing the world through your own eyes. What do you want? Not what others want of you.