Confused

Hi,

I used to have an anger problem in the past and I'm not anywhere near as bad as I used to be, but sometimes I'm not sure if I'll lash out when I'm driving or walking places. I keep thinking people are looking at me or judging me. And although I don't, I keep having this feeling that I could explode like in the past. I'm 26 now.

I have been in physical fights with other males before and now I feel really ashamed about my behaviour and anger issues in the past.

I suffer from major depression and anxiety issues. I've always drunk a lot of alcohol and now i'm an alcoholic and a very heavy pot user. I will be going through a home detox for the alcohol soon and i'm really hoping to give up cannabis and smoking altogether.

But the anger issues still bother me, even though i've matured a bit and realise how much of a fool I've been in the past.

Hi, SAS,
Welcome to the forums. You're working on your anger. Recognizing it and working on it are HUGE steps. Congratulations!

And more !congratulations! on working on the substance dependencies. Leaving the alcohol for good will make it a *whole* lot easier to control the anger. My suggestion is to make that the first step. Once you've got that disinhibitor Alcohol out of your life, your find it *way* easier to follow all other good intentions.

Good luck. Write back and tell us how it's going.

Hi, SAS,
I second everything that LoveQuiet said.
It is very common for young men to wrestle with anger, and as they mature, to finally get a handle on it.
Abstaining from alcohol is essential to regaining one's health. Alcohol is a depressant itself. As you have discovered, it is not the best medicine for depression and anxiety.
As you detox you will have to deal with the depression and anxiety without the fog of alcohol, which at first may be uncomfortable (to say the least) but in the long run will help you heal and be able to manage your anger much better.
Come here and post on your progress.
From your attitude in your post, I feel optimistic you will be successful in your detox.